The Four Types of Friends According to the Buddha

50Dear Friends,
maybe some of you remember an article from August, which told us about the positive impact that being exposed to Buddhist Concepts has on us. But have you ever heard that in Buddhist Tradition there is the idea, that we have four different types of friends. I definitely never before thought of my relations from this perspective, but found it quite interesting to think it thru. Especially considering this amazing time of change, while our relationship paradigms are changing so profoundly.
Buddhists tell the following story,
Ananda approached the Buddha once and remarked that “half of the dispensation is based on friendship, companionship and association with the good.” to which the Buddha replied “Ananda, do not say so. Not half, but man’s entire life is established on friendship, companionship and association with the good.”
So it might be worth to think about the relations we had so far, how much our close friends fit the picture of Buddha’s characterization and if we have to make some adjustments to our friendship circle. I wish you blessed relations, deep insights and that you enjoy the read!
Love and Blessings!! Edith
anYoung man, be aware of these four good-hearted friends: the helper, the friend who endures in good times and bad, the mentor, and the compassionate friend.
The helper can be identified by four things: by protecting you when you are vulnerable, and likewise your wealth, being a refuge when you are afraid, and in various tasks providing double what is requested.

The enduring friend can be identified by four things: by telling you secrets, guarding your own secrets closely, not abandoning you in misfortune, and even dying for you.

The mentor can be identified by four things: by restraining you from wrongdoing, guiding you towards good actions, telling you what you ought to know, and showing you the path to samsaric heavens.

The compassionate friend can be identified by four things: by not rejoicing in your misfortune, delighting in your good fortune, preventing others from speaking ill of you, and encouraging others who praise your good qualities.

 ~ Excerpted from the Sigalovada Sutta

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