What I learned from not drinking for two years

AaDear Friends,
I really love the new authentic expression movement that seams to spread within the masculine population right now. After the first spiritual warrior stood up and spoke out about their feelings of failure and true desire in love relationships; and others shared how restraining from watching porn allowed them to create brand new feelings and deeper relationships with women; now we have the first brave man telling us about his journey thru society, without the consume of alcohol. I love the authors honest and clear voice, and the simplicity in which he is sharing his life with us. I hope you enjoy the read just as much as I did!! Have an amazing day!!
Love and Blessings!! Edith

by: Andy Boyle
Two years ago today I last got shithoused. It was the closing night of the Lincoln Lodge, a fantastic comedy venue in Chicago in the back of a now-closed diner. They’ve since moved, but after that show, I thought I should take a breather from drinking — and eating meat — and focus on productivity.
Here’s a short list of what I’ve accomplished since I stopped drinking two years ago:
~) Lost 75 pounds
~) Bought a bad-ass loft condo
~) Finished a first draft of an advice book
~) Started exercising three days a week, then four
~) Went from a size XXL to size Large
~) Performed in three comedy festivals
~) Got a badass new job at Breaking News
~) Finished multiple drafts of multiple television and movie scripts
~) Went from 42-inch waist to 36-inch
~) Went from hating myself daily to relatively enjoying myselfaA lot of this is what I externally accomplished, what I can show on paper. But I think that last one is the most important. I’ve learned a lot in two years, so I thought I’d share that with you, in case you’d like to take a break from the booze cruise. Also, that’s what I tell myself: I’ve taken a break. Maybe I’ll drink again. Maybe I won’t. But overall, life seems to be a shitload better for me because I took a break. Perhaps it could be for you, too.

Things I’ve Learned in this two years:
1. You don’t have to drink to have fun!!
What a shocker! As someone who’s been drinking since his senior year of high school (sorry mom, we weren’t just “hanging out” in the basement), most events in my life revolved around booze. Almost everything does: Comedy shows, concerts, after-work functions, meetups, dates, conferences, dinner, museum tours. But guess what? The events don’t change if you decide not to drink! You’re still you. Maybe you’re a little less “inhibited,” but is that altogether terrible? I’ve found that when I hang out with folks who have been drinking, I start to feel the same way I was — in terms of becoming silly, goofy, fun — when I was around people while drinking. And I remember everything that happened during the events, too, which is always nice.

2. You have way less regrets
Since I stopped drinking, I’ve yet to wake up and look at my phone, see something I texted, and go, “Ugh, wwwwwwhhhhhy.” I’m in control of my actions basically all of the time. I think a lot more before I respond to something someone says. If I’m angry, it gives me time to calm down instead of just reacting like a shithead. Drinking definitely helped my inner asshole come out a lot more often. Now I am better at keeping the jerkier side of me locked up. It still comes out, sure, but at least I have more control over when that happens.a13. People will judge the shit out of you
This one was the weirdest one to deal with. Many, many folks will give you shit for not drinking. Here are some actual things I’ve been told: “C’mon, dude, just have one beer! It’s not like you’re going to meetings or whatever!”, “I can’t trust someone who doesn’t drink.”, “You’re not fun unless you’re drunk.”,  “When you don’t drink, it makes me feel bad about myself, which makes me not like you.”, “I can’t date someone who doesn’t want to get drunk with me, sorry.”,
I’ve bet I said some of these things back when I used to drink. Because when you’re around someone who doesn’t do something you like doing, you can be taken aback by it. I’ve had friends who’ve stopped hanging out with me because I don’t drink anymore. I’ve had relationships end (or not even start) because of it. I have been sent screenshots of people I know talking smack about me to other people because I choose to not do a thing. It’s weird. But it makes you realize the bad relationship with booze other folks must be having. And for that, I have empathy. And I hope they figure it out.

4. You sleep so much better
I haven’t slept this great since before high school. Holy shit it’s fantastic. I could link you to all the studies that show how alcohol effects your sleep, but hey, take my word for it.

5. You get less sad
I don’t know if I have depression, but I used to get bummed out a lot. Days where I wouldn’t want to leave my apartment, or see anyone, mostly because I hated myself. I don’t hate myself nearly as much as I used to. I’m generally okay with my life and who I am. Positivity is my go-to emotion, even when something bad or terrible happens to me. It’s like I flipped this switch inside my brain: Instead of going to shittiness, I try to find the reason something is positive. It’s definitely weird to have this happen to me.j6. You develop more empathy for others
A few weeks ago, this guy blared on his horn because I was crossing at a crosswalk and he wanted to turn, and he almost hit me with his car, then he flipped me off and told me to go fuck myself and die. Old me probably would’ve stood in front of him, not moved, taken a photo or video of him, shared it on the internet, explained, “Hey look at this asshole who tried to hit me with his car!” and felt smug and wonderful about it. Instead, after an initial moment of fear and anger, I realized this dude is probably having an awful day. Maybe he’s late for an appointment. Maybe he’s trying to get to the hospital to see his sick son who has cancer. Maybe he didn’t have as loving of parents as I did, and that’s filled him with resentment his entire life. Either way, that guy has something going on, and I wanted him to be happier. Then I felt weird, because my brain has been wired forever to be a little shit to anyone who wrongs me. But now? I generally jump to empathy. I like that it does that now.

7. You save so much money
I bought a condo. I’d like to pretend as though it wasn’t because of how much money I saved not drinking and buying food while drunk, but probably 1/4th of my down payment came from just abstaining from booze. Yeah. I know.

8. You get tired earlier
It’s pretty hard for me to stay up past 11 p.m. most nights, even on the weekends. When I was drinking, booze was a magical fuel that kept me going, trying to find a new adventure. Now that I don’t drink, I’m not constantly searching for adventure, trying to find one more fun thing that will fill the empty void inside of me. I’m content with what I’ve done for the day, and my body wants to go to bed. I dig that. a9. You become amazingly productive
When you’re not spending most of your free time at bars, you get a lot of shit done. I read more. I write more. I learn more. I spend more time working on bettering myself and my skills than I ever would have sitting at a bar, chatting with a buddy or two. I’m much less social than I was previously, but I’m also creating more art and failing a lot more than ever before. In the end, I know I’m going to die. I’d rather there be a few things of me still hanging around a few years after I’m dead, some sort of expression of myself that others can enjoy. That requires me to put in the time to work on projects, make something tangible and real for others to enjoy. That seems, now, like a better use of my time than chatting with some pals at a bar. That conversation may have been great, sure, but in the end, it dies with me and those people. If I can create a few things that last longer than me, it makes my life last longer. It means I mattered a little more.
I’m glad I haven’t drank for two years. Sure, I’ve done a few shots of Malort with people who’ve never tried it. And that one time a dude threatened to kick my ass if I didn’t drink that shot of whiskey he bought me to congratulate me on “being so funny” after hearing me tell jokes about how I don’t drink anymore. If you ever think, hey, this drinking thing isn’t fun anymore, it’s okay to take a break. I just quit. For me, it’s been relatively easy, and I know it isn’t easy for everyone. But just know I’ve found countless rad people who can have fun without booze. And you can, too. Good luck!!

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Number Sequences (11:11,333,444,..) Numerology & Angel Interpretations

aashyby Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
about 3 years ago, I started noticing synchronicity in numbers appearing all over the place in my life. The appearances got stronger and stronger over the first year and than, they started translating themselves to me on an energetic level.
The divine/hermetic law of “everything is vibration and everything is in resonance” unveiled itself.
I developed a more refined feeling for the frequency vibrations the universe is expressing through the numbers. It is indeed fascinating how much we can learn about ourselves and the bigger picture, by spending time with this vibrations.
In the last few month now, as the acceleration rate for the human awakening is constantly increasing, more and more people from all over the world have reported seeing the numbers and wondering what they mean.
Especially High Sensitive persons, Lightworker, energy-worker, intuitive and spiritual minded people are at the moment strongly effected by this phenomena. 11:11 may even be a vibration encoded in their DNA (or physical consciousness / memory). If we allow ourselves to be guided by them, they can lead us to our soul purpose.

Here are interpretations coming from numerology:

11: When you notice the synchronicity with the number 11, it me that your awareness is growing. You are deeper “tuned in” now. Once you start with 11, more number synchronicity will follow. Try to notice the first thing that comes to your mind, when you see the number the next time. Make sure your thoughts match the true desires of your soul!

111: An energetic gateway has opened for you. The energetic level of light you are able to hold in your physical body is increasing. Your power to bring dreams and soul desire into manifestation is growing now.

1111:
A great moment to pause and increase your awareness of what is happening in front of your eyes. It comes when one of these energies manifests in your life or, one of them truly starts flowing for you – your sexuality, the flow of your inner water, your money themes, the Kundalini energy. Especially 11:11 is also often understood as a call for Lightworker, Intuitives and Channeler to follow the voice of their inner abilities – and do whatever it is everyone can do for our Golden Age of Humanity.ang

222 or 2222: Trust and keep going! You are in the middle of the resurrection of your physical body! The process of ascension to a full integration of your light-body takes patients and faith.

333 or 3333: You are called to make clear decision on topics already since a while on your mind. Your decision will determine if the energies of 666 = the material world or of 999 = the spiritual world, increasingly appear in your life.

444 or 4444: The Number of stability between the forces (11:11) is also the number of inner strength and resurrection. All your bodies need to be equally cleaned and aligned to step out of the wheel of Karma. When the numbers are repeating, it is a time to incorporate the mastery of yourself.

555 or 5555: The number of awakening into the Christ Consciousness, the golden I AM awareness. The Christ Consciousness is the individual divine awareness within every human being.

666 or 6666: The number of the materially manifested world, everything physical. The point of few you have chosen in your momentary reality.

777 or 7777: Congratulations!!! You have managed the integration of a new piece of your higher-self. You have flooded parts of the four lower bodies with higher spiritual frequencies and enlightened them.

888 or 8888: The symbol of infinity. The unified spiral of the physical plane merging with the spiritual plane, the masculine with the feminine. The balance within the paradox of the forces. A time to step into your self-empowerment.

999 or 9999: Symbolizes our ability to master our energies of the divine – the compassionate human heart – the lower vibrations of nature (3), on 3 different levels (3×3=9). In relationship to our individual personality, in relation with the divine and in relation to the rest of humanity. The number of completion of the human ascension.

anHere some words from Doreen Virtue, how angels use the numbers:
111:  Monitor your thoughts carefully, and be sure to only think about what you want, not what you don’t want. This sequence is a sign that there is a gate of opportunity opening up, and your thoughts are manifesting into form at record speeds. The 111 is like the bright light of a flash bulb.
It means the universe has just taken a snapshot of your thoughts and is manifesting them into form. Are you pleased with what thoughts the universe has captured? If not, correct your thoughts.

222: Our newly planted ideas are beginning to grow into reality. Keep watering and nurturing them, and soon they will push through the soil so you can see evidence of your manifestation. In other words, don’t quit five minutes before the miracle. Your manifestation is soon going to be evident to you, so keep up the good work!
Keep holding positive thoughts, keep affirming, and continue visualizing!!!

333: The Ascended Masters are near you, desiring you to know that you have their help, love, and companionship. Call upon the Ascended Masters often, especially when you see the number 3 pattern around you.

444: The angels are surrounding you now, reassuring you of their love and help. Don’t worry because the angels’ help is nearby.

555: Buckle your seat-belts. A major life change is upon you. This change should not be viewed as being “positive” or “negative,” since all change is but a natural part of life’s flow. Perhaps this change is an answer to your prayers, so continue seeing and feeling yourself being at peace.

666: Your thoughts are out of balance right now, focused too much on the material world. This number sequence asks you to balance your thoughts between heaven and earth. Like the famous “Sermon on the Mount,” the angels ask you to focus on spirit and service, and know your material and emotional needs will automatically be met as a result.

777: The angels applaud you…congratulations, you’re on a roll! Keep up the good work and know your wish is coming true. This is an extremely positive sign and means you should also expect more miracles to occur.

888: A phase of your life is about to end, and this is a sign to give you a forewarning to prepare. This number sequence may mean you are winding up an emotional career, or relationship phase. In addition, it means, “The crops are ripe. Don’t wait to pick and enjoy them.” In other words, don’t procrastinate making your move or enjoying fruits of your labor.

999: Completion. This is the end of a big phase in your personal or global life. Also, it is a message to lightworkers involved in Earth healing and means, “Get to work because Mother Earth needs you right now.”

In the hope that this little over-few has brought you a step closer to unveiling the many, beautiful languages and expressions of “THE ONE” within you and in the world surrounding you!
Blessings and Guiding Angels
Edith

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