Choose Her Everyday – Or Leave Her

x0Dear Friends,
as the last few weeks encouraged us to birth into Spiritual Warriors for love and to clear our core values around everything we truly desire, I thought this piece a nice invitation to both sexes for a personal relationship reality check. It is a beautiful and heart felt confession from a man who failed himself in love and mad his math – how not to repeat the pain. Written in honesty and clarity it deeply reminds us, that both sides are suffering when we can not really choose our partner.
After yesterdays share of A Spiritual Warriors Apology to the Feminine, I feel it a beautiful addition. Hope that all of you – who desire so, find the courage to manifest your most hidden, most loudly screaming, inner picture of new love relationships into this world!
AHO! And Blessings!
Edith
I spent 5 years hurting a good woman by staying with her but never fully choosing her:
I did want to be with this one. I really wanted to choose her. She was an exquisite woman, brilliant and funny and sexy and sensual. She could make my whole body laugh with her quick, dark wit and short-circuit my brain with her exotic beauty. Waking up every morning with her snuggled in my arms was my happy place. I loved her wildly.
Unfortunately, as happens with many young couples, our ignorance of how to do love well quickly created stressful challenges in our relationship. Before long, once my early morning blissful reverie gave way to the strained, immature ways of our everyday life together, I would often wonder if there was another woman out there who was easier to love, and who could love me better.
As the months passed and that thought reverberated more and more through my head, I chose her less and less. Everyday, for five years, I chose her a little less.
I stayed with her. I just stopped choosing her. We both suffered.coupleChoosing her would have meant focusing everyday on the gifts she was bringing into my life that I could be grateful for: her laughter, beauty, sensuality, playfulness, companionship, and so … much … more. Sadly, I often found it nearly impossible to embrace – or even see – what was so wildly wonderful about her. I was too focused on the anger, insecurities, demands, and other aspects of her strong personality that grated on me. The more I focused on her worst, the more I saw of it, and the more I mirrored it back to her by offering my own worst behavior. Naturally, this only magnified the strain on our relationship … which still made me choose her even less.
Thus did our nasty death spiral play itself out over five years. She fought hard to make me choose her. That’s a fool’s task. You can’t make someone choose you, even when they might love you.To be fair, she didn’t fully choose me, either. The rage-fueled invective she often hurled at me was evidence enough of that.
I realize now, however, that she was often angry because she didn’t feel safe with me. She felt me not choosing her everyday, in my words and my actions, and she was afraid I would abandon her.
Actually, I did abandon her.
By not fully choosing her everyday for five years, by focusing on what bothered me rather than what I adored about her, I deserted her. Like a precious fragrant flower I brought proudly into my home but then failed to water, I left her alone in countless ways to wither in the dry hot heat of our intimate relationship.
I’ll never not choose another woman I love again.
It’s torture for everyone.x2If you’re in relationship, I invite you to ask yourself this question:
“Why am I choosing my partner today?” If you can’t find a satisfying answer, dig deeper and find one. It could be as simple as noticing that in your deepest heart’s truth, “I just do.”If you can’t find it today, ask yourself again tomorrow. We all have disconnected days.
But if too many days go by and you just can’t connect with why you’re choosing your partner, and your relationship is rife with stress, let them go. Create the opening for another human being to show up and see them with fresh eyes and a yearning heart that will enthusiastically choose them everyday.Your loved one deserves to be enthusiastically chosen. Everyday.
You do, too……   Choose wisely!!Source: Bryan Reeves

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Science Has Spoken: Group Meditation Literally Changes the World

TM12Dear Friends,
this is a perfect moment to talk about meditation – especially group meditation!! As you know we are still under the astrological influence of the Lion’s Gate 8/8/8 and the Venus retrograde phase. Both of this star constellation events carry intensively strong frequencies to the planet. These are frequencies designed to trigger most important human attachments like out money, our love relationships and our sexuality.
What better time than to gather and shift the collective perspective together!!
This article shows, that since more than 40 years, official studies prove the immense effect of group meditation on the collective human consciousness.
As they missed to inform us so far, my recommendation is “Let’s act like our own government in this world and call on the people to burn their light as bright as they can, to transform our collective awareness. To
ease the blow of war in their countries, the impact of violence and abuse.
Let’s start teaching in our schools, that the united mind force can ease the pain in the human collective.
Time to join in peaceful intention and powerful union – for a Golden Age of Aquarius for all Beings of the planet.

Blessed meditations and spirit journeys!

Edith

For those with a basic layman’s understanding of quantum physics, it may come as no surprise that the simple act of meditation can have quantum results that affect not only the meditator, but his or her surrounding community and the world as a whole.
In 1978 a study was conducted on a group of meditators and as a result the “Maharishi Effect” was discovered.  7,000 people meditated with the intention of having a positive effect on the surrounding city for 3 consecutive weeks.  As a result of their intentional and collective meditation efforts, the collective energy of the city was totally transformed.  In fact the meditation effort was so powerful it reduced global rates of crime, violent acts, and deaths by an average of 16%.  There was also a reduction in the amount of suicides and car accidents and this was with all variables being accounted for.  To top it off, there was a 72% reduction in terrorist activity during the meditation project.
Since this time more than 50 studies have been done to test the validity of the Maharishi Effect and the results have confirmed the direct impact global meditation has on the world.  These studies are so clearly indicative of the power of meditation to transform global energy patterns that results have been published in the Journal of Crime and Justice.

downloadAccording to peacefulwarriors.net, “For example, a day-by-day study of a two-month assembly in Israel during August and September of 1983 showed that, on days when the number of participants at a peace creating assembly was high, the intensity of an ongoing war in neighboring Lebanon decreased sharply. When the number of participants was high, war deaths in Lebanon dropped by 76%.
When the study was repeated in Wales, they got amazing results. In 1987 Merseyside had the third highest crime rate of the eleven largest Metropolitan Areas in England and Wales; by 1992 it had the lowest crime rate. 40% below levels predicted by the previous behavior of the series. There were 255,000 less crimes in Merseyside from 1988 to 1992 than would have been expected had Merseyside continued to follow the national crime trend.”
Results like these would lead us to see that personal meditation is powerful beyond what we even understand from our everyday perspective.  It helps to drive home the awe-inspiring fact that truly ‘thoughts are things’ and when we think a thought, it is a form of fine vibrational matter that is contributing to the creation of all that we experience.  These effects are powerful and life changing for individuals but when people come together and use intention to direct their mental energy towards a collective vision, the results are LITERALLY world-changing.
feurige-zen-moenche-in-der-hauptrolle-eines-buchesI think the claim can be plausibly made that the potential impact of this research exceeds that of any other ongoing social or psychological research program. It has survived a broader array of statistical tests than most research in the field of conflict resolution. This work and the theory that informs it deserve the most serious consideration by academics and policy makers alike.
David Edwards Ph.D., Professor of Government, University of Texas at Austin.
Source: http://www.ewao.com/a/1-science-has-spoken-group-meditation-literally-changes-the-world

Choose Her Everyday (Or Leave Her)

Dear Friends,
this is a beautiful and heart felt article from a man who failed himself in love and mad his math – how not to repeat the pain. Written in honesty and clarity it gives a clear picture that both sides are suffering, when we can not really choose our partner. As since yesterday the star constellation Venus is retrograde, inviting us to clear our core values around everything we love and deeply desire in our life, I thought it a nice invitation to both sexes for a personal reality check. So close to the lion’s gate the energies are fiery, raw and deep!! 
Hope for all of you – who desire so, to find the courage and manifest your most hidden, most internally screaming, most satisfying picture of new love relationships into this world!
AHO! And Blessings! Edith

I spent 5 years hurting a good woman by staying with her but never fully choosing her.
I did want to be with this one. I really wanted to choose her. She was an exquisite woman, brilliant and funny and sexy and sensual. She could make my whole body laugh with her quick, dark wit and short-circuit my brain with her exotic beauty. Waking up every morning with her snuggled in my arms was my happy place. I loved her wildly.
Unfortunately, as happens with many young couples, our ignorance of how to do love well quickly created stressful challenges in our relationship. Before long, once my early morning blissful reverie gave way to the strained, immature ways of our everyday life together, I would often wonder if there was another woman out there who was easier to love, and who could love me better.
As the months passed and that thought reverberated more and more through my head, I chose her less and less. Everyday, for five years, I chose her a little less.
I stayed with her. I just stopped choosing her. We both suffered.

Choosing her would have meant focusing everyday on the gifts she was bringing into my life that I could be grateful for: her laughter, beauty, sensuality, playfulness, companionship, and so … much … more.

Sadly, I often found it nearly impossible to embrace – or even see – what was so wildly wonderful about her.

Emotional SpiralI was too focused on the anger, insecurities, demands, and other aspects of her strong personality that grated on me. The more I focused on her worst, the more I saw of it, and the more I mirrored it back to her by offering my own worst behavior. Naturally, this only magnified the strain on our relationship … which still made me choose her even less.

Thus did our nasty death spiral play itself out over five years.
She fought hard to make me choose her. That’s a fool’s task. You can’t make someone choose you, even when they might love you.
To be fair, she didn’t fully choose me, either. The rage-fueled invective she often hurled at me was evidence enough of that.
I realize now, however, that she was often angry because she didn’t feel safe with me. She felt me not choosing her everyday, in my words and my actions, and she was afraid I would abandon her.
Actually, I did abandon her.
By not fully choosing her everyday for five years, by focusing on what bothered me rather than what I adored about her, I deserted her.
Like a precious fragrant flower I brought proudly into my home but then failed to water, I left her alone in countless ways to wither in the dry hot heat of our intimate relationship.
I’ll never not choose another woman I love again.
It’s torture for everyone.
If you’re in relationship, I invite you to ask yourself this question:
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“Why am I choosing my partner today?”
If you can’t find a satisfying answer, dig deeper and find one. It could be as simple as noticing that in your deepest heart’s truth, “I just do.”
If you can’t find it today, ask yourself again tomorrow. We all have disconnected days.
But if too many days go by and you just can’t connect with why you’re choosing your partner, and your relationship is rife with stress, let them go. Create the opening for another human being to show up and see them with fresh eyes and a yearning heart that will enthusiastically choose them everyday.
Your loved one deserves to be enthusiastically chosen. Everyday.
You do, too.

Choose wisely.

Source: https://bryanreeves.com/choose-her-everyday-or-leave-her/