The Awakening Path of a Female Shaman – My Body, My Sanctuary

mineby Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
Last week I spend three days at a Community Building Forum, based on ZEGG principles. The work we did to learn a bit more about each other, and grow in understanding and compassion for another, collectively already opened up many wonderful doors. But there was also an amazing moment for my personal development, that I love sharing with you. I felt open to let the group know, that for 40years of my life I experiences “myself”, as again and again slightly floating above my body. You see, I never had the feeling of existing as a physical being only, rather a “something” trying to fit into a body. That lead to the development of so many of the gifts and strength, that I am sharing now in my work. And for many heavy years, to a feeling of disconnection and mistrust. Coming from a family background where I had to wideness physical abuse, without being violated myself, had made me cautious of the wide range of possible physical pain. When I was 30 I was lead to the beginning of my conscious shamanic path, and 14 years ago now – I tapped into the uniting world of Tantra.
With the support of body-work, inner child work, the liberation of my voice and redirection of my mind – toward peace between men and women – I released my personal past, the past of my family tree and found my most stable home ever – IN MY BODY.  14 years, 2 completed circles of renewal (7 years each) it took for me, to understand the teachings that I had received in details and energy, integrate this brand new mindset, relay everything to the past I had experienced, and apply the new found wisdom in my everyday life. So my actions are fit for the Golden Age of Aquarius. And what does all of this have to do with the forum, you might ask. Well, the forum gave me the chance to do what I do best, when I seek personal evolution. I sang.
Funny story is, when I channel desired strength, energetic qualities or simple my own soul – I don’t sing spiritual songs or Mantras, like most people do. I sing Country songs, Musical numbers and big Broadway shows…. Feel invited to laugh a little… ;-)…. I wanted the group to feel me, to feel by vibration – how I feel about life, my passion for sharing this planet in this moment – with an awakening collective, my gratitude and bliss – for finally resting so peacefully in my physical body, and allowing life to direct the path. To do so, I chose “The River” from Garth Brooks. And while the others watched and heard me singing a song, my mind claimed physical immortality. The right to consciously decide time and setting of “the death” of my physical body.

I will sail my vessel, till the river runs dry
like a bird upon the wind, this waters are my sky
I’ll never reach my destination, if I never try
so I will sail my vessel, till the river runs dryas

This is an excerpt from an article By Peggy Andreas, which beautifully explains the shamanic influenced ways and directions – I feel so blessed to have naturally been guided to. 
The Path of the Shaman heals the Body. The Body? Haven’t most of us been conditioned to believe that the Body is somehow inferior to the Spirit, to the Soul? America’s Elders—the Native Americans—have always taught that the Body, our personal connection of substance and spirit, is sacred. An ancient song of the Salish Women’s Society runs:

Who cannot love her Self cannot love anybody.
Who is ashamed of her body is ashamed of all life.
Who finds dirt and filth in her body is lost.
Who cannot respect the gifts given even before birth, can never respect anything fully.

A Shaman’s Path begins with her own Body and involves the generation, control, storage, channeling, exchange, and release of energy. Principles recently “discovered” by modern scientists have been known to Shamans since ancient times, for example: Entrainment (“If two rhythms are nearly the same and their sources are in close proximity, they will always lock up, fall into synchronicity.”; E=mc² – the interchangeability of energy and matter; and much more. A Shaman perceives the Body as a luminous cluster, a sacred act, a whirling act of power and beauty. Exploring the Body, one becomes a specialist in vibration, harmony, and balance. Curious to bridge other dimensions, the awareness reaches out like a lightning rod. When that awareness is illuminated, her own Body grounds the energy and releases it into the Earth so that it does no harm. Some scientific principles have not yet caught up with shamanistic knowledge, for instances, the principle of Gravity. A modern-day Shaman puts it this way, “The earth is calling to you. It has something for you. This great creature upon which we live wishes to give you its energy to empower your life.”
Westerners shun this gift. They call it GRAVITY and think it’s a force that wants to pull us down to the center of the earth. Instead, be like a tree, sinking roots down into the earth’s magnetism. Reach out with your branches and leaves for light and air from above!”. Acquiring shamanic power involves a kind of death/rebirth experience. It involves letting go of the self, eliminating habits that make up the personality, dispensing with the “self-dialogue,” getting out of the way and letting the universe do the talking. When the Shaman traditionally dies to herself, she is born into the larger community of the Tribe of the Cosmos as a representative of Earth. “Essentially, a woman’s spiritual way is dependent on the kind of power she possesses, the kind of Spirit to whom she is attached, and the tribe to which she belongs. She is required to follow the lead of the Spirits and to carry out the tasks assigned to her. Native American stories point to a serious event that results in the death of the protagonist, her visit to the Spirit realm from which she finally returns, transformed and powerful. After such events, she no longer belongs to her tribe or her family, but to the Spirit teacher who instructed her.shaman_spirit_feather_pic1Seeking the Body’s wisdom, a Shaman continually centers herself in her womb, her belly, or her solar plexus, NOT in her head. The lower center brings her to a better foundation from which to move. It also anchors her runaway thought processes and brings her to an alignment with the Body of the Earth. In order to use her own energy efficiently, the Shaman must become flexible, fluid. To do this, she must confront the blockages of fear stored in the Body. Her task is to melt the blocks of fear with the energy that she generates; indeed, the word “Shaman” literally means “to heat oneself.” Personal freedom comes from letting go and learning to trust in one’s Body to find its own vibration, balance and harmony.
It also has been said, that the first Shaman invented our human sexuality. A Shaman is a self-erotic being. In love with her own Body and with the Body of Earth. She heats herself, burning off the dross, centering herself in her own luminosity. She radiates well-being and self-confidence. Her leadership emerges out of a passion for life and is sustained by balance. 

Power is strength and the ability to see yourself through your own eyes and not the eyes of another. If a person has power, as women do, and she doesn’t use it, power will sit within her and have no place to focus. It is then that power becomes twisted and evil. It can turn against the person who has called it. 

If this need stays unnoticed a certain point, the psychical energy peaks almost unbearably. As met with a hostility or even abusive beahvior (as usually happens in a world that lacks understanding), the potential Shaman may turn the energy in on herself, or outwards, becoming hostile and abusive to others. Which would create even more harm This is not to say that an initiate cannot receive help. If she is sincere in her desire for healing, she will find the proper catalysts and midwives for birthing the Shaman in herself. In the ancient tribal ways, she could find an experienced Shaman in her own community to explain what was happening to her, and ease her way a bit. This older, wiser one would give her exercises that can train her to control the degree and timing of “opening the flower of her awareness.”
Tribal people believe that becoming a Shaman is a matter of destiny; and that if a destined person resists becoming a Shaman, she will become more and more entangled in her own problems. Modern-day Shamans have learned to grow from the mistakes that Shamans of the past have made. Keeping what works, they’ve thrown the rest away. They have let go of arrogance and embraced simplicity. They are not afraid to frolic and have fun. They have made a commitment to serve the life-force; and they draw their personal strength and unity from that commitment. End Excerpt73576ed0b062e4a30dfa9582d4036b6eMy dear sisters near and far in this world, I hope these words will inspire you to go out there and expend your curiosity about the advantages of a consciously chosen mental death. The Grace and Blessings of New Beginning ;-)!! I hope you feel encouraged and empowered to also dive deep into the amazing abilities the feminine body has to offer!! What the world needs now, are women who courageously respond to a crisis, embrace their own shamanic destiny and join us heal the collective emotional body of the human race.
We are the natural gateway between life and death, between the filling of the human vessel with divine spirit – and completely emptying it out again, and again, and again…. Tomorrow I will explain a bit, how to identify yourself as shamanic talented, when coming from a Western Culture. Don’t forget to reach out to your Spirit Guides, the Ascended Master Realms, the Nature Spirits or your Crystals, when ever you are in need for their support!! Keep breathing deeply that will make your world shift with more ease and grace!!

Love, Blessings an Light! Edith

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The Art of Lovemaking

loveby Edith Boyer-Telmer
Dear Friends,
for some days now, again and again the theme of our collective human sexuality popped up and created the energy for the shifts and changes, appearing within the new relationship paradigm. We talked about the influence the constant consume of pornography can have on the masculine mind and brain reward system. And I shared the beautiful, open, heartfelt and authentic confession of a friend, about what kind of influence his regular porn watching had on his relationship.  As we are shifting another little step deeper into the Golden Age of Aquarius and into the openness for a new, evolved human sexuality. Many of you expressed by now your feelings and hopes for this changes. So here are some baby steps how to start, and move from having sex, into a mode of “making love”. I hope this Gemini Full Moon’s energies have filled you up with bravery and passion, and that you find the right person to share all your dreams and desire with!!!
Blessings, Love and Light
Edith

This is an excerpt from the article “Pornography Verses Conscious Sexuality”, from Stella Muse:
The Art of Lovemaking

Conscious sex leads to LOVE making. Learning the art of lovemaking, of intimacy and connection with your partner beyond diving direct into genital stimulation is so empowering personally and in a couple. When my clients realize this, learn and practice this they express there is no longer a desire for porn as it doesn’t satisfy like love does.

Gift Presence
Being conscious means being present, totally and utterly in the moment; with yourself if it is self pleasure or with your beloved if you are enjoying together. You are not distracted, thinking about the ‘to do’ list from the day, neither are you worrying about how your body looks in the light or if some part of you is big enough or small enough. None of these ‘personality’ driven thoughts are given any attention. Instead, that mind power is channeled into presence and thus love for your beloved. As you let go of everything else you loosen, you relax, you soften and open to melt into them and the moment. Being fully in the here and now on a regular basis with yourself first and foremost through practices such as meditation, yoga, floating and mindfulness allows you to better drop into the moment and be present with your beloved as well. Gifting presence is a priceless gift of love to your beloved which in turn is also a gift to your relationship and yourself.

Get Intimate
When you are present you are really being with the other person and this is when the intimacy builds. Intimacy also depends on how honest you are with yourself and your beloved. You can not lie to yourself and you can not lie to a beloved if you want to get intimate. Your innate desire for intimacy is your desire to know and experience yourself deeply and to be truly known by your beloved.

11988521_10153391755423515_3098415974840019079_n4 simple ways to build intimacy before you get to the bedroom

Share Ideas – Be open minded, listen and share; perhaps it’s planning a holiday, booking a restaurant, or creating something together from a meal to a business launch.

Share Emotions – Without projection – Own how you’re feeling – share your emotions in a loving manner. This opens your heart to your beloved and brings you closer.

Have a Snuggle – Snuggling and hugging is endorphin raising. Holding someone and/or being held allows your body to slow down enough to connect deeper; to feel the others warmth, their energy merge with yours and welcome them into your personal space. This can be as intimate as you allow.

Touch to Feel – Conscious touch means being present while you are touching to deeply feel the other person can be extremely intimate. This transforms the stroke of an arm or cheek to a sensual interaction. Building upon this with touch after touch can awaken the fire between you both.

4 simple steps to spark Conscious Sex / Lovemaking

Set the scene – Candles, music, incense, dim lights, some champagne, ice cubes, strawberries, a blind fold, mirrors, warming or cooling of the room. Use your imagination it can be as simple as one candles by your bed or turning your space into a sacred temple of love worship.

Eye gazing – Eyes are the windows to the soul and are the powerhouse of sparking intimacy and fueling passion. Try; sit knee to knee, women on top, stand naked across the room from each other, or in front of a mirror if you are alone and look deeply into the eyes of yourself or your beloved. In them you will see yourself, you can see love, oneness, unity, Divinity. What else can you see? What do you feel? Where in your body do you feel it?hqdefaultSensual touch – Where on your body or your partners body do you love to touch, explore, be licked, kissed, tasted, tickled, pinched, massaged? Go to other areas besides the breasts or genitals, make them hungry, wet, begging, desiring, excited, turned on, juicy for more before you go near the genitals.

Body Worship – This is the time to slow dance your way around the body temple, yes, slow. Slow it right down. Once you do make it to breast, yoni or lingam touch, take your time. This should be a dance or enticing erotica. THIS foreplay is lovemaking, it is being present in the heat of the moment, in the HEART of the moment.

The key distinction is that conscious lovemaking goes beyond the physical, you are penetrating each others hearts and souls as well. A  conscious lover tunes into their beloveds movements, the flush of their skin, their breath and heart rate increasing, the little quivers or moans. They tune into the energy of their beloved and respond with passion and love. For some there is a healthy curiosity, a desire to experiment, mix things up and/or explore porn but once that has been achieved and the art of LOVE making, of conscious sex has been learned and practiced the distinction between the two is so vast it is like your eyes opening for the first time and you can not close them and shy away from what you have seen (felt, tasted…) ever again. This is the power of conscious sex, this is the power of making LOVE through opening to being Divine LOVE.
Article Source: http://www.stellamuse.com/porn-v-conscious-sex/

Yogic Tools For A Better Sex Life – From ‘Having Sex’ to ‘Making Love’

make love

Dear Friends,
I shared this wonderful piece about a year ago and today realized, it is even more inspiring now as we are collectively invited to understand sexuality on a completely different level than before. It complements perfectly my post about the sacredness of our human sexuality, within the new relationship paradigm for the Golden Age of Aquarius. I hope you like it as much as I did, and that you feel inspired by the practical tips the author is providing! Have fun experimenting and discovering yourself and your partner in the beauty of your soul’s light!!
Blessings and Love!
Edith

The key is to view our sexuality holistically—not just as a physical or emotional experience. When we honor our sexuality as the most potent energy we possess (literally the ability to create life), we realize a powerful opportunity for cultivating union—a deep, soulful merging between two people. Turn your love making into a spiritual practice. Use sex to awaken, express your creativity and expand consciousness. In yoga, this is called bramacharya (containment and mindful use of sexual energy) and is one of the 10 foundations (yamas) of living a yogic life.

1. Choose Partners Wisely
Look and choose partners that have the same intention as you. For example, if you are seeking a relationship, be clear they have the same intention. If you just want a lover, make sure your partner is on the same page. Is this a monogamous relationship or open? Transparency builds mutual trust and understanding and creates the safety necessary for your psyche and soul to feel safe enough to expand. Having honest, direct conversations means you’re setting the foundation of love and respect.

2. Agree on the Ground Rules
Prior to entering into a sexual relationship, have a conscious dialogue around basics such as sexually transmitted diseases, what type of birth control you’ll use and even what happens if you do get pregnant. It’s crucial to set and agree on ground rules in order to build a foundation where both partners feel understood.
If you have trouble discussing touchy subjects with your partner, it’s a good indication that there is not enough care, friendship, emotional connection or psychological development between you to warrant moving into a sexual relationship. In other words, if you can’t be honest about your needs or truth, ask yourself why? Is this really an appropriate sexual partner for you? Bonus: deeper intimacy and physical satisfaction comes when you feel safe, heard and respected!

3. Practice Deep Breathing
Before you enter the physical love making, get in the habit of slowing down and resonating with your partner by breathing together. Conscious sexuality is not about orgasm. It’s not even about intercourse. When we focus our attention on the breath, we move out of a goal oriented, physical process and into a more ‘feeling state’ connected to the subtle, non-linear, energetic body.
Making love is two people truly seeing, feeling, celebrating and honoring each other—a merging of the two into the one. When you deepen and slow down your breath, you open over 72,000 energetic pathways or nadis. This relaxes your body, increasing blood circulation which can lead to fuller, more pleasurable orgasms (not necessarily the goal). It also calms the mind and softens the ego. You will begin to connect to your partner from a more generous, humble, open and authentic place. If you notice continued deep, conscious breathing is difficult for you, get thyself to a yoga class!7898900_f5204. Practice Soul Gazing
Another powerful exercise to build energetic and emotional alignment with your partner is Soul Gazing. This is an open-eye meditation where you simply sit comfortably and relax together. Start by sitting on the floor or bed across from each other in a cross-legged position (or whatever feels comfortable). Sit close together, knees almost touching. Lengthen through your spine, relax your shoulders, face, jaw, tongue and your expectations. Make and gently hold eye contact. (It is helpful to look left eye to left eye so the eyes are not darting back and forth.) Begin to observe each other silently. Take each other in. Watch your breath without trying to control it. Observe what you see in the other person and how it feels to truly be seen. Let any thoughts, judgments, expectations, defenses or tension rise and silently fall away. Relax, breathe, see, be seen and feel.
For many people, it is extremely difficult to maintain eye contact here. Laughter often arises, a feeling of silliness or fidgeting. Simply notice this and allow it to rise and fall away like waves in the ocean. Come back to the breath. Silently sit and gaze into each others’ eyes—with no expectation—for a minimum of 15 minutes.
When you move out of the personality and verbal mode of communicating, you begin to simply be with another and drop into a more authentic space. Your connection deepens out of the “False Self” we tend to project. You begin seeing through the eyes of the heart and perceiving your partner beyond the roles and identity you have attached to them. Expectations and judgements slip away. The Soul or Spirit becomes more tangible. Attuning and bringing your energies into alignment with deep breathing and soul gazing will immediately enhance the intimacy in your relationship even when you are not having sex.

5. Set an Intention
Allow your love making to turn into a spiritual practice. This is often referred to as ‘sexual magic’ —or using sex as a gateway for spiritual evolution and deep psychological and emotional healing. One way to begin this practice is to simply set an intention or say a prayer before making love. Ask Spirit to enter the room. Ask that this be a ritual to bring both you and your partner into your Highest Self, connect with your deepest truth, wisdom and capacity for unconditional love.
If you’re in a committed relationship you may choose to focus on something you intend to create together with your partner. For example, if you have children you may dedicate your ritual as an offering to be better parents. If there’s tension in a relationship or you just had a fight, ask that the love you make help you both soften, let go, forgive and reconnect. Perhaps, your intention is simply to explore, release, be wild, playful and have fun! Sex is alchemy—an opportunity to use the physical body to consciously shape-shift, change our emotional state and elevate our consciousness. Your sexual energy is the most powerful energy you own. Literally, the energy that creates life. It does not get any bigger or more potent than that. Setting an intention before sex is like placing a dam on this raw power—focusing and directing the flow to exactly the area of your life you choose.

6. Start Slowly
Slow down…. Sex is not a goal-oriented process. Our aim is to move out of the ego/thinking mind and into the transcendent realm of the Soul. Start with deep breathing, massaging, gentle touching, kissing and maintaining eye contact. The nervous system, physical body and heart need time to transition, relax, feel safe and open. Patience creates safety, ease and contentment. The ego mind is goal-oriented. When we are trying to get somewhere or get someone else somewhere it breeds tension, anxiety and constriction in the body.
When you notice your thinking mind ‘trying’, analyzing, judging or anticipating, return to the breath, relax, recommit to gazing and slow down. Holding each others’ gaze while making love breeds much more intimacy (and vulnerability) and connects the heart center to the second chakra or sacral center. Deep breathing expands and spreads out the intensity, desire and sensations of the sexual organs, building a bridge between our primal desires (sexual energy) and our heart—the emotional, sweet, tender, vulnerable, authentic space of who we are. Breath, gaze, sound and intention begin to align our actions with our heart.se7. Draw Energy Up Your Spine
Once you are making love, practice taking deeper breaths to expand your energy and draw it up the spine. When we move up the line through the chakras, we move into more refined aspects of Self. We are less obsessed with our individual, physical desires and getting our needs met and more attuned to our partner, expanding our awareness and serving others. Allow yourself to be “inspired.” The word “inspiration” literally means to breathe in—to be filled with breath. Allow Spirit to flow through you and be literally In-Spired or filled with Spirit when you’re in the process of making love. Visualize the flow of energy moving upwards through your belly, chest, back, outwards through your arms and eyes, and back to your partner again. This begins the tantric loop of contained energy that will fuel and “inspire” both of you.

8. Bring More Affection Daily
Make affection, kindness, tenderness and physical touch a priority on a daily basis. Sweetly caress your lover’s face. Get in the habit of regularly giving compliments. Hold their hand. Surprise your lover with a sweet kiss. Practice random, unsolicited acts of kindness. This stimulates the ‘mirror neurons’ making us feel loved, lovable and keeps us sensually connected. Do this for yourself, too! Self love is the foundation of all love.

Posted by Ashley Turner June 17th 2014, in http://www.meetmindful.com/conscious-love-how-to-improve-your-sex-life/