Native American Leadership Guidelines – Fit For The Golden Age

aby Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
at the beginnings of this month I shared in my article Native American wisdom for the collective awakening process, that it might be time for us to make ourselves familiar with some guidelines and rules, that can lead the human collective into the Golden Age of Aquarius. A leading voice in the movement of educating people from the western culture in the Native American ways of life, was the Sioux Chief “Standing Bear”. He became a leader on the forefront of the progressive movement, that aims to preserve Native American heritage and sovereignty. His wisdom remains as part guidance for us today and for many collective steps to come..

 1) Praise, flattery, exaggerated manners and fine, high-sounding words were no part of Lakota politeness. Excessive manners were put down as insincere, and the constant talker was considered rude and thoughtless. Conversation was never begun at once, or in a hurried manner.

2) Children were taught that true politeness was to be defined in actions rather than in words. They were never allowed to pass between the fire and the older person or a visitor, to speak while others were speaking, or to make fun of a crippled or disfigured person. If a child thoughtlessly tried to do so, a parent, in a quiet voice, immediately set him right.

3) Silence was meaningful with the Lakota, and his granting a space of silence before talking was done in the practice of true politeness and disregardful of the rule that ‘thought comes before speech.’…and in the midst of sorrow, sickness, death or misfortune of any kind, and in the presence of the notable and great, silence was the mark of respect… strict observance of this tenet of good behavior was the reason, no doubt, for his being given the false characterization by the white man of being a stoic. He has been judged to be dumb, stupid, indifferent, and unfeeling.

4) We did not think of the great open plains, the beautiful rolling hills, the winding streams with tangled growth, as ‘wild’. Only to the white man was nature a ‘wilderness’ and only to him was it ‘infested’ with ‘wild’ animals and ‘savage’ people. To us it was tame. Earth was bountiful and we were surrounded with the blessings of the Great Mystery.n5) With all creatures of the earth, sky and water was a real and active principle. In the animal and bird world there existed a brotherly feeling that kept the Lakota safe among them. And so close did some of the Lakota’s come to their feathered and furred friends that in true brotherhood they spoke a common tongue.

6) This concept of life and its relations was humanizing and gave to the Lakota an abiding love. It filled his being with the joy and mystery of living; it gave him reverence for all life; it made a place for all things in the scheme of existence with equal importance to all.

7) It was good for the skin to touch the earth
, and the old people liked to remove their moccasins and walk with bare feet on the sacred earth… the old Indian still sits upon the earth instead of propping himself up and away from its life giving forces. For him, to sit or lie upon the ground is to be able to think more deeply and to feel more keenly. He can see more clearly into the mysteries of life and come closer in kinship to other lives about him.
8) Everything was possessed of personality, only differing from us in form. Knowledge was inherent in all things. The world was a library and its books were the stones, leaves, grass, brooks, and the birds and animals that shared, alike with us, the storms and blessings of earth. We learned to do what only the student of nature learns, and that was to feel beauty. We never railed at the storms, the furious winds, and the biting frosts and snows. To do so intensified human futility, so whatever came we adjusted ourselves, by more effort and energy if necessary, but without complaint.

9) …the old Lakota was wise. He knew that a man’s heart, away from nature, becomes hard; he knew that lack of respect for growing, living things soon led to lack of respect for humans, too. So he kept his children close to nature’s softening influence.

10) Civilization has been thrust upon me and it has not added one whit to my love for truth, honesty, and generosity.Lakota-Dear Ones, I hope this guidelines for human life, from the Native American Sioux Chief “Standing Bear”,help you manifest your Golden Age and much more…  I hope you are all about to discover what that means for you and your path!!
Love and Blessings!

Edith

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Native American Wisdom For The Collective Awakening Process

aby Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
over the last few weeks we have been invited to take a deep look at the meaning of our sexual relationships in the past, and the changes we are facing to create the new relationship paradigm. At the same time the collective awakening energies have together with the higher amount of pineal gland awakenings, brought the chance to create a deeper sensory relationship with the elements. Now it is time to make ourselves familiar with some guidelines and rules of Native American wisdom, that can lead the human collective into integrating the new born abilities.

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We have been invited to nourish and protect our childlike innocence, to be curious about life and be in the heart, and this are the qualities that are bringing forward our new ability to live aligned with this divine guidelines for the Golden Age of Humanity, that we are manifesting right now!! Finally the first pioneers on this wonderful planet are truly ready to go beyond race, gender, age, religion, tradition, language and patriotism, and create the communities of the future we collectively desire!! The first soul tribes are forming, THE FUTURE HAS BEGONE…

We are the Ones We Have Been Waiting For
You have been telling the people,
That is the eleventh hour.
Now, you must go and tell the people,
That This is the hour;

And there are things to be considered.
Where are you living? What are you doing?
What are your relationships?
Are you in the right relationship?eWhere is your water?
Know your garden…
It is time to speak the truth.
Create your community.
Be good to each other.

There is a river flowing now very fast,
It is so great and swift.
That there are those who will be afraid,
They will try to hold onto the shore.

They will feel they are being pulled apart,
And they will suffer greatly.
Understand that the river knows its divine destination.

The elders say we must let go of the shore.
Push off into the middle of the river,
Keep our eyes open and our heads above water.
And I say: see who is in there with you,
Hold fast to them and celebrate!

At this time in history,
We are to take nothing personally.
Least of all, ourselves!
For the moment we do,
Our spiritual growth and journey comes to an end.

The time of the Lone Wolf is over! Gather ourselves!
Banish the word “struggle” from your attitude and vocabulary.
All that we do now must be done,
In a sacred manner and in celebration.

We are all about to go on a sacred journey,
We are the ones we have been waiting for!
Speaker of the Wolf – Fox and Coyote Elder of the Hopi NationbThis is how the Native American Code of Ethics states it:

Rise with the sun to pray. Pray alone. Pray often.
The Great Spirit will listen, if you only speak.
Be tolerant of those who are lost on their path.
Ignorance, conceit, anger, jealousy and greed stem from a lost soul.

Pray that they will find guidance.
Search for yourself, by yourself.
Do not allow others to make your path for you.
It is your road, and yours alone.

Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.
Treat the guests in your home with much consideration.
Serve them the best food, give them the best bed
and treat them with respect and honor.

Do not take what is not yours whether from a person,
a community, the wilderness or from a culture.
It was not earned nor given. It is not yours.Respect all things that are placed upon this earth,
whether it be people or plant.
Honor other people’s thoughts, wishes, and words.

Never interrupt another or mock or rudely mimic them.
Allow each person the right to personal expression.
Never speak of others in a bad way.
The negative energy that you put out into the universe,
will multiply when it returns to you.dAll persons make mistakes.
And all mistakes can be forgiven.
Bad thoughts cause illness of the mind, body and spirit.
Practice optimism.

Nature is not FOR us, it is a PART of us.
They are part of your worldly family. Whispers
Children are the seeds of our future.
Plant love in their hearts.
Water them with wisdom and life’s lessons.
When they are grown, give them space to grow.

Avoid hurting the hearts of others.
The poison of your pain will return to you.
Be truthful at all times.
Honesty is the test of one’s will within this universe.

Keep yourself balanced.
Your Mental self, Spiritual self, Emotional self, and Physical self.
All need to be strong, pure and healthy.

Work out the body to strengthen the mind.
Grow rich in spirit to cure emotional ails.
Make conscious decisions as to who you will be
and how you will react.

Be responsible for your own actions.
Respect the privacy and personal space of others.
Do not touch the personal property of others,
especially sacred and religious objects.
This is forbidden.fBe true to yourself first.
You cannot nurture and help others if you cannot
nurture and help yourself first.
Respect others religious beliefs.
Do not force your belief on others.

Share your good fortune with others.
Participate in giving.

Dear Ones, I hope you feel interested and motivated now to study, explore and integrate the awareness of our chances and responsibilities, for manifesting the Native American Code of Ethic in everyday life. Lets be strong all together, hold hands and trust that we truly are the ones we have been waiting for. The ones who will bring the Golden Age of Aquarius. Always remember you are enough and you deserve to make all your deepest dreams come true!!
Light an Love ;-)!

Edith

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The Collective Awakening Process & The Native American Code of Ethics

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by Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
Tonight, just 4days before the Cancer Full Moon, we experience the night of the Solstice. In the North it is Winter Solstice and in the South it is Summer Solstice. During tonight’s transition, the Earth will align directly with the Galactic Center. Powerful waves of Light Codes bring higher frequencies of divine balance and harmony. This energies will direct the course of our Planet’s evolution and all of her inhabitants, for the months to come. The Solstice is the most powerful and perfect time, to consciously align ourselves with the intentions we have for our soul work, during the year that lies ahead of us.
Last week we talked about the collective cleansing of the first chakra, that has taken place for the human race. This energetic clearing allows us to sense on profound levels, how we need to create our collective future as one race on planet earth. And this is where the Native American Code of Ethics comes into play. First thing worth knowing is, that every indigenous race existing on the planet right now, is holding a particular vibration of the divine blueprint, in order to show humanity the possibility for a healthy world. The Native American race has taken on the responsibility, to represent the wisdom and vibration of the divine/hermetic laws, in translation for behavior rules for the collective human race.

The Seven Hermetic Principles are as follows:
1. The Principle of Mentalism.
2. The Principle of Correspondence.
3. The Principle of Vibration.
4. The Principle of Polarity.
5. The Principle of Rhythm.
6. The Principle of Cause and Effect.
7. The Principle of Gender.the-seven-hermetic-principles-for-manifestingThe ways how Native American traditions and customs have taken care of a respectful treatment of every inhabitant of mother earth, during life and death, represent an appropriate behavior for all human beings. The behavior we have to adapt to, in order to create the Golden Age of Aquarius. In order to live in healthy and strong tribes, where everyone is equal to the other and brings their work force into the co-creation, for the good of all beings involved. A Brotherhood of Men.

The wisdom the Native American life style is barring for us, that comes from translating the hermetic principles on an emotional level, are as following:
1. Equality of all Existence / Brotherhood of Men
2. Acceptance of all powers of spirit and mater
3. Awareness and Respect for all manifested existence
4. Piece between all tribes and beings
5. Justice and Honor in maintaining the human rights
6. Authenticity and Honesty in thought, word and action
7. Maintain inner strength, in order to intensify the power, and than use it for the good of all beings.

28This is how the Native American Code of Ethics states it:
Rise with the sun to pray. Pray alone. Pray often.
The Great Spirit will listen, if you only speak.
Be tolerant of those who are lost on their path.
Ignorance, conceit, anger, jealousy and greed stem from a lost soul.

Pray that they will find guidance.
Search for yourself, by yourself.
Do not allow others to make your path for you.
It is your road, and yours alone.

Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.
Treat the guests in your home with much consideration.
Serve them the best food, give them the best bed
and treat them with respect and honor.

Do not take what is not yours whether from a person,
a community, the wilderness or from a culture.
It was not earned nor given. It is not yours.womeRespect all things that are placed upon this earth,
whether it be people or plant.
Honor other people’s thoughts, wishes, and words.

Never interrupt another or mock or rudely mimic them.
Allow each person the right to personal expression.
Never speak of others in a bad way.
The negative energy that you put out into the universe,
will multiply when it returns to you.

All persons make mistakes.
And all mistakes can be forgiven.
Bad thoughts cause illness of the mind, body and spirit.
Practice optimism.

Nature is not FOR us, it is a PART of us.
They are part of your worldly family. Whispers
Children are the seeds of our future.
Plant love in their hearts.
Water them with wisdom and life’s lessons.
When they are grown, give them space to grow.morethanAvoid hurting the hearts of others.
The poison of your pain will return to you.
Be truthful at all times.
Honesty is the test of one’s will within this universe.

Keep yourself balanced.
Your Mental self, Spiritual self, Emotional self, and Physical self.
All need to be strong, pure and healthy.

Work out the body to strengthen the mind.
Grow rich in spirit to cure emotional ails.
Make conscious decisions as to who you will be
and how you will react.

Be responsible for your own actions.
Respect the privacy and personal space of others.
Do not touch the personal property of others,
especially sacred and religious objects.
This is forbidden.Native-American-baby-girlBe true to yourself first.
You cannot nurture and help others if you cannot
nurture and help yourself first.
Respect others religious beliefs.
Do not force your belief on others.

Share your good fortune with others.
Participate in giving.

I hope this little inside into our divinely desired behavior, will allow you to see where we are collectively off the line!! That it allows you to see yourself in the mirror of the divine laws, and have the courage to change where you need to align yourself! May the contact to the divine guidance of your higher-self and supportive angels be with you, when you choose to grow and move on, during this loving Winter/Summer Solstice transit!
Love and Blessings!!!

Edith

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5 Ways to Be a Body Love Activist and Not Let the Trolls Get You Down

indexDear Friends,
the other day, when I was sitting with some friends, we came to discuss how the world would look like if every woman desides to love her body – just the way it is. If the industry of cosmetics, would run crazy and try to get us back on track??? If doctors would come for a visit at home to make sure plastc surgery is going on??? And if the world would not be a better place, with more happy faces – who’s expression you still can read (brotox faces can’t smile!!). Please enjoy this article – that came to me just after our talk!!
Love, Blessings and respect for your body!!
Edith
The world needs body love and self-love advocates — lots of them. But it’s not easy work, and I want to help my fellow body love activists navigate this global revolution that can often be exhausting and hurtful, since it is primarily spread around the planet via the Internet, and not everyone online is kind.
Let’s face it: our culture, like most cultures on our beautiful planet, has been unconsciously convinced that only a small handful of humans are worthy to be celebrated, to feel beautiful and to try on the word “perfect” to see how it feels. So many write to me and express, How dare women who don’t fit into a one-shape-one-skin-tone-one-skin-texture-one-age-and-gender-mold love themselves? How dare women love their un-Photoshopped bodies, and How dare we celebrate us ALL, yes us ALL: those of us with bony hips and those of use with cellulite and dimpled thighs and those of us who are differently abled and those of us born small or tall or large or black or golden?

jade beall

The problem, as I see it, is that when we praise only ONE mold of a human, as we have been convinced we must do, division is created, jealousy becomes a natural side effect, distrust multiplies and sisterhood vanishes.
When I started A Beautiful Body Project and my work began circulating the planet, I would sit late into the night, bleary-eyed and with thorns stabbing my heart and lungs, replying to hundreds and then thousands of the people who disliked my work and left unkind comments on the articles that were published about it. I wanted them to understand where I was coming from, how the women I worked with would be very hurt by their comments, and that all bodies are divine and worthy of praise and self-love! And then I learned: it was a waste of my precious time.
I gathered with other body love activists in my town, specifically my beloved Jes of The Militant Baker, talking at length about how to do our body love feminist work and not feel defeated and broken from Internet unkindness.

This is what I have learned and practice daily:
1. Don’t read the comments on published articles about your work.
The energy wasted replying to trolls and unkindness only takes away enthusiasm needed to serve YOU and hundreds of thousands of women for whom we are facilitating empowerment! We MUST use our energy wisely in our busy lives, and we MUST choose to give our attention to those who support, understand, or have legitimate and respectful disagreements that can help us grow in our compassion.
I do read most of the comments on my FB and Instagram account, because my assistant and I have successfully banned most of the unkindness, and are left with positivity and mindful critiques from our followers. It’s amazing.

jade beall

2. Embrace being a feminist. It is a word that has been historically labeled as bad. It’s not.
When I started A Beautiful Body Project, people began praising me for my “feminist work.” I would quickly dismiss the words and reply that I was not a feminist, just a woman wanting to change the way our culture perceived what is beautiful and empower women to feel freedom from shame around their precious, perfect and divine bodies.
And then I realized: that’s feminist work! Many of us associate being a feminist with having an angry, hardened passion. It doesn’t have to mean that. Doing feminist work is incredibly positive and is a global NEED. Feminism raises a hand every single second of every Earth rotation: women seeking to feel seen and understood and worthy. It is simply standing up as a compassionate and determined tribe to all of those who have been telling us that we are not enough and that we must change to be perfect and whole, and it’s simply practicing BELIEVING (fake it until you make it) that we are enough, and that our sisters are enough, and that we have a right to exist exactly the way we are, right now.

3. Practice self-care.
Do things that bring you happiness. I dance every Friday night to live drums, with a wild group of gorgeous women, and I call it my medicine. I take long walks in nature with my son and turn off my phone for days. Taking breaks from being world-changers so that we can return refreshed and nourished is a MUST.

4. Surround yourself with people who understand your work.
Being a part of a tribe is so deeply important. For me, it’s my weekly dance class; it’s spending quality time with my son and his dad, who is my best friend. It’s having talks about art with my love. Being around those who understand how hard it is to put ourselves out there is incredibly healing. My friendships changed since I started this work; I had to find freedom from many “devil’s advocates” and locate those who saw the worth of my work and took me in their arms when I was weary and tired of standing up to the bullies. Sometimes those closest to us will not understand what we do. With time, some of them begin to understand — and it is ultimately up to us to pick the people we’ll spend our time with. Choose those who hold you and love you, those who will give you a safe space when you cry and listen to you when you sing!

5. Never give up.
The world needs all of us practicing kindness and believing in the deep need for global feminism. It’s often hard, and yet, if we focus our attention on those who are mindful with their comments and those who wish to have respectful dialogue; if we embrace being women’s advocates; if we practice wholehearted self-care and surround ourselves with those who “get it,” our work will be more successful, more kind, more expansive and ultimately more suitable so that we ALL can be the change we wish to see in the world.

jade beall

Jade Beall is co-founder of A Beautiful Body Project. Read more about the project here.
Source:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jade-beall/5-ways-to-be-a-body-love-activist-and-not-let-the-trolls-get-you-down_b_7570622.html

Loving an Empath

Dear Friends,
I absolutly love this article!!! Born as an Empath and an Indigo child, I have suffert just about everything the article is talking about. I cared to much, I loved to pure (for my surrounding) and I started doubting everything, stopped trusting people and retreated. But now, being in my power – I love life and people, I can give and receive love freely and fearless and can bring all the power of divine love into the world and to my clients!! Healing is recommendable ;-)!! Also I can see the lover that I AM in every word the author says about us empathic people.
So I hope you enjoy the read and bring all your beloved existance into shining manifestation!
Unconditional love and Blessings!!
Edith
empathEmpaths are unique personality types, their sensory levels are always on high alert, they are incredibly intuitive and their awareness and sensitivity to the energy levels that vibrate around them are extremely high. If an empath senses something, they are not often wrong. If they think someone’s lying or that something is just “not right” you can bet your last dollar that they are not wrong.
Therefore, a basic understanding of this mystical and quite magical creature is highly beneficial. Empaths have quite a few little quirks, traits and characteristics that are worth knowing about, and gaining a better understanding of, so that any relationship that is formed has a strong survival chance and also so that it thrives. Empaths can be deeply misunderstood. It can take a little time to get to know them before they fully unravel and until their true magnificent spirit receives the opportunity to shine.
Love with an empath will be intense as they are energetically sensitive, therefore they will pick up on everything and anything that is happening around them. Regardless of whether emotions have been outwardly expressed, empaths will experience their partner’s emotions as deeply as they feel their own. It is impossible to try to hide true feelings when romantically involved with an empath as they will likely have figured them out long before the person feeling them has. Empaths are highly intuitive yet sometimes fail to trust their inner voice as too many people have previously tried to wrongly convince them that their gut feelings were wrong.
Being a little naïve and trusting at times, the empath has doubted themselves and pushed aside their intuition, causing them to lose faith in the power they hold within that alerts them to any perceived signs of danger. That being said, the little nagging voice in the empath’s head will not subside until the reality and truth has been fully uncovered. Empaths like truth. However hard it is to handle, they would rather be told things straight than told a lie, even if it is a white one. Although the truth isn’t always pretty, it is much nicer than spending days and nights trying to make sense of all the complicated energies and subliminal messaging systems that are going on.
you-are-an-empath If it’s one thing that empaths are amazing at it is dealing with a brutally raw and honest relationship. Although they can be rather delicate creatures on some levels, their strength in relationships is found where honesty, trust and loyalty come before anything else. Empaths can be perceived as having hearts that are caged in. Although, this is only true when they have been deceived so many times they feel that their only option is protection. The true spirit of an empath wants to give and receive love in abundance, though they are only able to do this when they feel safe and secure that they are in a safe place to open the door and allow the love to flow. One of the most tragic parts about the empaths character is that all too often the love is cast out in all the wrong places. Empaths feel the pain and sorrow of the whole world and feel that they want to heal and fix the world up and make things better for all concerned. This can be an amazingly powerful thing and this energy is exactly what the world needs. However, this can also be a deeply painful way to exist. Not everyone sees the world the way an empath views it and because of this, an empath’s heart will be broken constantly and they will bleed endlessly for cruelty, injustice and inequalities. There will be many who will want to take the love, affection and the empath’s good nature with no care for giving any return. Whilst this can teach an empath a lot about unconditional love and also an immense amount about self-preservation, it is also a deeply painful learning process.
An empath will fail to understand why others do not give out care, consideration and affection freely and why other people can so easily turn a blind eye to heartbreak and suffering when healing is what is required. Others may ridicule and belittle the empaths desire to reach out and make a difference, and this serves to add salt to their wounds. When an empath feels hurt, what they need most is loving support and understanding so that they know they are not alone in wanting to use some of their powerful energy to heal and make changes in the world; if they receive this from a partner, a bond for life will very likely form.
indexEmpaths will fall into the hands of those who want to take advantage of their somewhat naïve and caring nature. Again, this is another sharp lesson and one that can cause an empath to develop a sense of mistrust and what leads to protecting their emotions with barriers and brick walls. It can also lead to an empath to feelings of unworthiness and also low-self esteem, as once they have depleted their energy reserves to such a low level by giving and not understanding how to protect themselves in the process, they can end up with a broken heart and with very little faith in mankind. It is not in an empaths nature to take, they only know how to give, so to ensure the relationship is one of balance and is also harmonious, ensure the empath is shown love in the form of actions, so that the circle of love flows freely.
Words will mean little to an empath, unless they are followed through. Their intuition will quickly pick up on something done with poor intent, or if a person’s words are inauthentic.To love someone who is an empath means to recognise that they thrive when the flames are turned up, not down. An empath gives off a powerful and energetic fuel of love, light and radiance, though the fire only fully rages when an empath exists in a sacred place within which they feel secure enough to glow. Empaths are soft, delicate and immensely vulnerable creatures on the inside, although, once burnt, on the outside they can appear incredibly strong. Once bitten, twice shy where an empath is concerned, they find it very difficult to forget deep wounds and to continue a relationship once foundations are rocked. The best way to fully connect with an empath is by creating a safe and solid platform to build a future upon. If cracks appear through mistrust and deceit, it can become immensely difficult to repair them.
Empaths thrive on trust, loyalty and dependability. Show them these things and the relationship will be very difficult to break. As empaths are highly passionate people, they will often find a strong connection to a hobby or interest that others will find impossible to penetrate. Due to their creative side, they may find a resonance with music, dance, writing, art, activism, reading, Yoga, meditation, humanitarian causes or other similar interests. Whatever it is that has captured the mind of an empath will be become sacred in their hearts. Empaths will immerse themselves in their hobbies and lose themselves completely and sometimes this can feel as though their interests are the only things that matter to them.
Image1Although they will have a deep attachment to their passions, it is far easier to understand that an empath loves all things at great levels of intensity and they need outside interests to survive and feel alive, this can sometimes be difficult for others to understand. Space, plenty of space, and freedom to explore and submerge in their chosen activity is the easiest way to deal with this. Asking an empath to choose may not give the desired outcome that would be hoped for. The heart quickly gets connected to passionate interests, and once that connection has been made, the heart will be break if it has to be severed. Respect and understanding for another’s alone time can make or break a relationship with an empath. An empath will not want or expect anyone else to dive as deeply into their interests as they do, however, an understanding that their interests are significantly important can really make life a whole lot easier. There is no need to feel ostracised or unwelcome, while there’s a little chance an empath will let you fully in to their special interest, it is far more likely they will gain more pleasure when they are wrapped up in it by themselves.
This is not selfish or inconsiderate, it is just simply how the empath’s heart and spirit operate. If they have a connection to something, it is intense and they will very likely wish to delve as deeply into it as is possible. Passions are a great energy release and empaths will possibly feel as though they zone-out while immersed, and they will very likely lose all track of time. Allow them to take pleasure in it, and with the free time this has created, take up interests separately rather than allowing resentment or frustration to build. It possibly won’t last for too long, as empaths are known to move quickly from one interest to another once the initial burning desire of connection eventually simmers down. As empaths are sensitive to energy, their worst-case scenarios are confrontations and aggressive situations.
Although under normal circumstances they are one of the least violent and aggressive characters, they can very easily lose their self-control if they become absorbed in the negative and toxic energy that surrounds them. Empaths are fight or flight characters who more often than not, will prefer to take flight and remove themselves from the weight that the energy is bearing down on them. If situations like this occur regularly, it can eventually lead empaths to become introverted and homebodies as they prefer the safety of their own environment where they are not subjected to the rise and fall of other people’s energies. After attending any kind of social situation, they will need downtime to recharge and to balance out their own energy fields. Places such as supermarkets, nightclubs, the cinema or anywhere where there is a large crowd of people, will be very draining for an empath. They are very sensitive to light and sound, so these things can also have a detrimental and draining effect on an empath’s psyche.
Spiritual Partnership Loving an EmpathAn empath will likely need to hold on to their partner’s hand or arm during such occasions, finding that their partner’s energy forms a soothing welcome block and temporary release from the energies that surround. After attending any social function an empath may feel completely drained and the effects can be temporarily debilitating, meaning that all an empath will want to do is sleep or rest, possibly alone, until the absorbing effects of the occasion have worn off. All in all, it will take a very secure, confident and balanced person to form a solid mutually beneficial and rewarding relationship with an empath. The empath personality type is a unique and extremely enchanting gift to the world. As long as their wings are not clipped, and they have the freedom and space to fly, it has the opportunity to be a deeply rewarding, incredibly loving and spiritually awakening relationship for both involved. A connection with an empath can be a blessing and one of the greatest gifts from the universe as it offers the opportunity to look at the world through the lens of a kaleidoscope.
Everything that may have once seemed normal for a relationship will be turned upside down as a new understanding and perspective is learned and the unconscious mind is preened open. At times it may feel like being in the company of a magically gifted being who has special powers that we have been led to believe do not exist within humans. This can be both a blessing and a curse. Nothing will get past an empath as they see, feel and connect with everything at all times. The one thing I would strongly recommend is to peel back all the layers that society labels as “norms,” “standards” and “expectations.” We are then free to discover a brand new way of existing; giving and receiving unconditional love, being fully alive in the moment, connecting deep within the core of our primal being and reigniting all the superpowers that are inherent within man.
A relationship with an empath can lead to uncovering special gifts such as intuition, energy awareness, deep connection and a brand new level of understanding the fellow man without the need for speech. All the things the modern world has tried, for far too long, to convince us we should deny. True love can be a very difficult thing for an empath to achieve, although with the right person, with someone understanding, grounded, free spirited and trustworthy, love can be an intimate, deeply bonding, healing, fulfilling, empowering and healthy addiction that neither will want to break.

Source: http://www.psychedelicadventure.net/2015/06/loving-empath.html

Learn to be “Masters of Love”

kindnessDear Friends,
the other day I was send this article, which I absolutely fell in love with. I do not know the source of the piece and therefore have to apologize to the author -as I can not post the reference and give credit where it belongs!! Never less the work is to beautiful not to be shared!!
I am familiar with the studies John Gottman started in the 70th and therefore found it interesting to see the authors approach. Personally I believe that we are growing up as spiritual beings and, that this includes taking full responsibility for our feelings. I think that everybody has the responsibility to heal the pain of the inner child, the pain body or lower self, how ever you want to call it, to become a productive part of a oneness society. And I think that kindness and presence with the other, are crucial for every relationship, if you are aiming for a long-term engagement.
Very interested to hear what you are thinking!!!
Enjoy the read! Love and Kindness!
Edith

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According to science, lasting relationships come down to – kindness and generosity.
Every year in June, the most popular wedding month of all, thousands of couples say “I do,” committing to a lifelong relationship that will be full of friendship, joy, and love. Feelings that will carry them forward to their final days of life on planet earth. Except, of course, it doesn’t work out that way for most people. The majority of marriages fail, either ending in divorce and separation or devolving into bitterness and dysfunction. The statistics state, that of all the people who get married, only three in ten remain in healthy, happy marriages.
In the 1970s, social scientists first started studying marriages by observing them in action. This happened as there response to a crisis, triggered by a constantly ingresing divorce rate. Worried about the impact these divorces would have on the children of the ended marriages, psychologists decided to determine what the ingredients of a healthy, lasting relationship are. Is each unhappy family unhappy in its own or did the miserable marriages share something in common? Is there a  toxic similarity?

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John Gottman began gathering his most critical findings in 1986, when he set up “The Love Lab” with his colleague Robert Levenson at the University of Washington. Gottman and Levenson brought newlyweds into the lab and watched them interact with each other. With a team of researchers, they hooked the couples up to electrodes and asked the couples to speak about their relationship, like how they met, a major conflict they were facing together, and a positive memory they had. As they spoke, the electrodes measured the subjects’ blood flow, heart rates, and how much they sweat they produced. Then the researchers sent the couples home and followed up with them six years later to see if they were still together.
From the data they gathered, Gottman separated the couples into two major groups: the masters and the disasters. The masters were still happily together after six years. The disasters had either broken up or were chronically unhappy in their marriages. When the researchers analyzed the data they gathered on the couples, they saw clear differences between the masters and disasters. The disasters looked calm during the interviews, but their physiology, measured by the electrodes, told a different story. Their heart rates were quick, their sweat glands were active, and their blood flow was fast. Following thousands of couples longitudinally, Gottman found that the more physiologically active the couples were in the lab, the quicker their relationships deteriorated over time.

But what does physiology have to do with anything? The problem was that the disasters showed all the signs of arousal—of being in fight-or-flight mode—in their relationships. Having a conversation sitting next to their spouse was, to their bodies, like facing off with a saber-toothed tiger. Even when they were talking about pleasant or mundane facets of their relationships, they were prepared to attack and be attacked. This sent their heart rates soaring and made them more aggressive toward each other. For example, each member of a couple could be talking about how their days had gone, and a highly aroused husband might say to his wife, “Why don’t you start talking about your day. It won’t take you very long.”
The masters, by contrast, showed low physiological arousal. They felt calm and connected together, which translated into warm and affectionate behavior, even when they fought. It’s not that the masters had, by default, a better physiological make-up than the disasters; it’s that masters had created a climate of trust and intimacy that made both of them more emotionally and thus physically comfortable.

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Gottman wanted to know more about how the masters created that culture of love and intimacy, and how the disasters squashed it. In a follow-up study in 1990, he designed a lab on the University of Washington campus to look like a beautiful bed and breakfast retreat. He invited 130 newlywed couples to spend the day at this retreat and watched them as they did what couples normally do on vacation: cook, clean, listen to music, eat, chat, and hang out. And Gottman made a critical discovery in this study—one that gets at the heart of why some relationships thrive while others languish.
Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.” For example, say that the husband is a bird enthusiast and notices a goldfinch fly across the yard. He might say to his wife, “Look at that beautiful bird outside!” He’s not just commenting on the bird here: he’s requesting a response from his wife—a sign of interest or support—hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.
The wife now has a choice. She can respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” from her husband, as Gottman puts it. Though the bird-bid might seem minor and silly, it can actually reveal a lot about the health of the relationship. The husband thought the bird was important enough to bring it up in conversation and the question is whether his wife recognizes and respects that.
People who turned toward their partners in the study responded by engaging the bidder, showing interest and support in the bid. Those who didn’t—those who turned away—would not respond or respond minimally and continue doing whatever they were doing, like watching TV or reading the paper. Sometimes they would respond with overt hostility, saying something like, “Stop interrupting me, I’m reading.”
These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in ten of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of ten, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.

5.acts-without-thinking-kindness-picture-quotesBy observing these types of interactions, Gottman can predict with up to 94 percent certainty whether couples—straight or gay, rich or poor, childless or not—will be broken up, together and unhappy, or together and happy several years later. Much of it comes down to the spirit couples bring to the relationship. Do they bring kindness and generosity; or contempt, criticism, and hostility?
“There’s a habit of mind that the masters have,” Gottman explained in an interview, “which is this: they are scanning social environment for things they can appreciate and say thank you for. They are building this culture of respect and appreciation very purposefully. Disasters are scanning the social environment for partners’ mistakes.” Contempt is the number one factor that tears couples apart. “It’s not just scanning environment,” chimed in Julie Gottman. “It’s scanning the partner for what the partner is doing right or scanning him for what he’s doing wrong and criticizing versus respecting him and expressing appreciation.”
Contempt, they have found, is the number one factor that tears couples apart. People who are focused on criticizing their partners miss a whopping 50 percent of positive things their partners are doing and they see negativity when it’s not there. People who give their partner the cold shoulder—deliberately ignoring the partner or responding minimally—damage the relationship by making their partner feel worthless and invisible, as if they’re not there, not valued. And people who treat their partners with contempt and criticize them not only kill the love in the relationship, but they also kill their partner’s ability to fight off viruses and cancers. Being mean is the death knell of relationships.
Kindness, on the other hand, glues couples together. Research independent from theirs has shown that kindness (along with emotional stability) is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a marriage. Kindness makes each partner feel cared for, understood, and validated—feel loved. “My bounty is as boundless as the sea,” says Shakespeare’s Juliet. “My love as deep; the more I give to thee, / The more I have, for both are infinite.” That’s how kindness works too: there’s a great deal of evidence showing the more someone receives or witnesses kindness, the more they will be kind themselves, which leads to upward spirals of love and generosity in a relationship.

 

kibnThere are two ways to think about kindness. You can think about it as a fixed trait: either you have it or you don’t. Or you could think of kindness as a muscle. In some people, that muscle is naturally stronger than in others, but it can grow stronger in everyone with exercise. Masters tend to think about kindness as a muscle. They know that they have to exercise it to keep it in shape. They know, in other words, that a good relationship requires sustained hard work.
The hardest time to practice kindness is, of course, during a fight—but this is also the most important time to be kind. Letting contempt and aggression spiral out of control during a conflict can inflict irrevocable damage on a relationship.
“Kindness doesn’t mean that we don’t express our anger,” Julie Gottman explained, “but the kindness informs how we choose to express the anger. You can throw spears at your partner. Or you can explain why you’re hurt and angry, and that’s the kinder path.” John Gottman elaborated on those spears: “Disasters will say things differently in a fight. Disasters will say ‘You’re late. What’s wrong with you? You’re just like your mom.’ Masters will say ‘I feel bad for picking on you about your lateness, and I know it’s not your fault, but it’s really annoying that you’re late again.’”
“If your partner expresses a need,” explained Julie Gottman, “and you are tired, stressed, or distracted, then the generous spirit comes in when a partner makes a bid, and you still turn toward your partner.” In that moment, the easy response may be to turn away from your partner and focus on your iPad or your book or the television, to mumble “Uh huh” and move on with your life, but neglecting small moments of emotional connection will slowly wear away at your relationship. Neglect creates distance between partners and breeds resentment in the one who is being ignored.

 

loving-kindnessFor the hundreds of thousands of couples getting married this month—and for the millions of couples currently together, married or not—the lesson from the research is clear: If you want to have a stable, healthy relationship, exercise kindness early and often. Active constructive responding is critical for healthy relationships. In the 2006 study, Gable and her colleagues followed up with the couples two months later to see if they were still together. The psychologists found that the only difference between the couples who were together and those who broke up was active constructive responding. Those who showed genuine interest in their partner’s joys were more likely to be together. In an earlier study, Gable found that active constructive responding was also associated with higher relationship quality and more intimacy between partners.
There are many reasons why relationships fail, but if you look at what drives the deterioration of many relationships, it’s often a breakdown of kindness. As the normal stresses of a life together pile up—with children, career, friend, in-laws, and other distractions crowding out the time for romance and intimacy—couples may put less effort into their relationship and let the petty grievances they hold against one another tear them apart. In most marriages, levels of satisfaction drop dramatically within the first few years together. But among couples who not only endure, but live happily together for years and years, the spirit of kindness and generosity guides them forward.

 

Top 7 Tips for How to Be Happy

Dear Friends,

this is an good list that came to me these days to be shared and discussed :-). Some of this tips are rather simple and practical, easy to handle for every person. Others are definitely long term projects, to be started. For sure we need to stay with our eyes on the ball, if we want to create a sustainable happy life. Just like spiritual practice, is the creation of happiness closely connected to discipline (positive thinking and interpreting lifers challenges), perseverance (bringing the divine into human manifestation needs daily reminder of our true origin and inheritance) and relaxation (no emotional change can become clear for you, if you are all the time acting!! the feminine unveils her beauty in inner silence, in gentleness with yourself and when you are listening to your inner voice).
Enjoy the article and when you try the tips, may the forces of love be with you!
Love and Blessings! Edith

Top 7 Tips for How to Be Happy

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Here are our top tips for how to find true and lasting happiness in daily life:

1.) Let go of negativity.

  • Learn to forgive and forget.

  • See every challenge as an opportunity for further growth.

  • Express gratitude for what you have.

  • Be more optimistic about the future and your ability to accomplish life goals.

  • Open yourself up to success and embrace failures or mistakes that happen along the way.

  • Know that none of us are perfect, we are all here to entertain and be entertained.

  • Don’t worry about the little things. Take plenty of “worry vacations” where you train your mind not to worry for a certain lengths of time.

  • If you want to be more positive, surround yourself with positive energy and people. Nurture the positive relationships that you have, seeking out more of those relationships that help uplift you.

  • Accept and love yourself for the unique gifts and talents that you bring to life. Spend less time trying to please others and spend more time trying to please your higher self.

  • See the humor in life and in our experiences. Take life less seriously and learn to laugh at yourself.

2.) Serve and be kind to others.

  • Treat everyone with kindness. Not only does it help others to feel better, but you will notice that you too feel good after having a positive interaction with others.

  • Speak well of others. When you speak negatively of others you will attract more negativity to yourself, but when you speak positively of others, you will attract more positivity.

  • Truly listen to others. Be present and mindful to what others are really saying when they speak. Support them without bringing yourself into it.

  • Be careful with your words. Speak gentler, kinder, and wiser.

  • Respect others and their free will.

  • Put your trust in others and be trusted in return. Enjoy the sense of community and friendship that comes from this openness and faith in one another.

  • Work as part of a whole. See others as partners in your efforts. Unite your efforts with them to create a synergy more powerful than anything you could do alone.

  • Practice generosity and giving without expecting anything in return. Get involved with service opportunities and offer what you can to a greater cause.

  • Smile more– to family, to co-workers, to neighbors, to strangers– and watch it not only change how you feel but also how they feel too.

descarga3.) Live in the present.

  • Don’t replay negative events or worry about the future.

  • Accept and celebrate impermanence. Be grateful for your life, for each moment of every day. Observe the constant and natural flow of change that surrounds us, and your small yet important part in the natural, divine flow of life.

  • Observe yourself in the moment. Work on your reactions to outer circumstances and learn how to approach life harmoniously.

4.) Choose a healthy lifestyle.

  • Keep a daily routine. Wake up at the same time every morning, preferably early. Setting yourself to a natural biorhythm will make it easier to wake up and feel energized.

  • Get enough sleep. Proper sleep is linked to positive personality characteristics like optimism, improved self-esteem, and even problem solving.

  • Expose yourself to cold temperatures (especially first thing in the morning with perhaps a cold shower). It increases your circulation, helps minimize inflammation in the body, enhances weight loss, and energizes and invigorates you to start your day.

  • Turn off the TV. For every hour of TV you watch, you reduce 22 minutes of your life expectancy.

  • Eat properly. What you eat has a direct effect on your mood and energy levels. Eat plenty of organic, locally grown fruits and vegetables, nuts, whole grains, and dairy products that are both vitamin and mineral infused. Don’t overeat and try to practice healthy self-control.

  • Exercise daily to the point of sweating. It not only helps to purify the body, but also releases endorphins which help to prevent stress, relieve depression, and positively improve your mood.

  • Laugh more. Laughter is the best medicine. Like exercise, it releases endorphins that battle the negative effects of stress and promote a sense of well-being and joy.

  • Practice deep breathing and yoga. The body and mind are connected. Emotions affect the physical systems in the body, and the state of the body also affects the mind. By relaxing and releasing tension through the breath or yoga practice you feel more calm and centered throughout the day.

5.) Take care of your spirit.

  • Strive to always learn new things. Constantly expand your awareness and discover new ways of expressing your divine gifts.

  • Get creative. This will not only challenge you to learn new things, but will also help to keep your mind in a positive place. Practice living in the present moment and being a channel for the divine flow of creativity.

  • Practice meditation. Research has proven that even as little as 10 minutes of meditation a day can lead to physical changes in the brain that improve concentration and focus, calm the nervous system, and help you to become more kind and compassionate, and even more humorous. Then bring the joy and peace you receive from meditation into your daily life and activity.

  • Be honest. Telling the truth keeps you free inside, builds trust in relationships, and improves your will power and the ability to attract success.

  • Surrender to the Universe Divine and allow it to take care of the littlest things in life to the greatest and most important.

descarga (1)6. ) Be inwardly free.

  • Live minimally and simply. Often extravagant living brings more stress not more satisfaction.

  • De-clutter your home to de-clutter your mind. Clutter is an often unrecognized source of stress that promotes feelings of anxiety, frustration, distraction, and guilt. Feel good in your own home. Make it your sanctuary by keeping it clean, organized, and uplifting.

  • Go without certain things you think you need. Travel to new places where not everything is as easily accessible or readily available, and learn to appreciate what you have by expanding your world.

  • Take some time away from life’s complicated outer involvements to get to know your family, your neighbors, and your loved ones better; and to get to know yourself.

7.)  Reconnect with Nature.

  • Take some time every week to recharge your body battery. On the weekend, escape to nature or a place where you can feel peace in time for a fresh start to the work week.

  • Get outside whenever possible to breathe in the fresh air and feel the sunshine. Both of which studies have shown to have a positive effect on our health and our mood.

  • Take some time to be silent. Be silent and calm every night for at least 10 minutes (longer if possible) and again in the morning before rising. This will produce an unbreakable habit of inner happiness to help you meet challenges in life.

  • Observe the natural beauty that surrounds you and feel a sense of connection. Appreciate the details and miracles that can be found in nature.

Taking the Next Steps to Finding Happiness:

Ask yourself what makes you happy, and find ways to restructure your life so that you are able to do more of those things.

Then ask why you struggle to do the things that you know will make you happy. Why are you not yet happy? Why haven’t you taken the next steps to find your happiness? Why are you here? And what do you need to do to feel a sense of accomplishment in this life?

Visualize yourself happy, doing the things that will bring you inner and outer success in life and write down the things you need to do to create a Happiness Bucket List. Start with the little things you know you can do each day that will bring you joy. Then move on to accomplish greater and greater things on your happiness bucket list.

Source: http://findinghappinessmovie.com/happiness-tips/

 

Native American Peace Pipe And The Sacred Meaning to Native Americans

A Native American peace pipe is often used in a spiritual ceremony. During the ceremony, Native Americans will smoke from the peace pipe and say a prayer to the four directions.
The Native American peace pipe is not restricted to being used only be Native Americans, but it is a spiritual thing and what it symbolizes must be respected by everyone attending the ceremony. Other types of pipes used in ceremonies were the medicine pipe and the war pipe. The Indian that carried the peace pipe was often allowed to pass through enemy territory out of respect. The war pipe had red feathers symbolizing blood and was smoked before going into battle.
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What a Native American peace pipe is made of may vary from tribe to tribe. The Cherokee and Chickasaw tribes often used river clay that was formed into a bowl shape then “cooked” by putting it over a hot fire for the bowl of a peace pipe. Bluestone is hard quartzite that is greenish blue. Found in the Appalachian Mountains, it was used for the bowl of a pipe by the Cherokee, Creek, and Chickasaw as well. The Eastern, Western, Great Basin and Plains Tribes often used red pipestone (also known as catlinite) to make their Native American peace pipes. Another form of catlinite called blue pipestone is used in some Native American peace pipes. This type of stone can be found in South Dakota. The Plains tribes also use black pipestone while the Shoshone and Ute sometimes use green pipestone. The Uncompahgre Ute of central Colorado mine salmon alabaster to make their peace pipe bowls.

The Plains Indians often carried the Native American peace pipes in a bag called a pipe bundle. This bundle was decorated on the outside and also was used to carry the tobacco that would be used in the pipe. The Native Americans considered tobacco to be a sacred and powerful plant. If help was needed from the spirit world, sometimes tobacco would be offered in return for help. It was believed that the smoke from the Native American peace pipe carried prayers up to the heavens.

You can make your own peace pipe. The most desired material to make a peace pipe bowl from is the red pipestone. That is because the red pipestone is very easy to carve with a knife when it is first quarried. It then later turns hard after exposure to the air. There are many solutions as to what to use for the stem, which should be about 20 inches long. You can use a hollow reed or bamboo. You can also use a hollow bone like the leg bone of a deer or the wing bone of a large bird. If you do not have access to either of those, you can cut a stem from a tree (such as a maple, willow, or poplar). After you split it down the middle, dig out the inside and glue the pieces back together. It should join easily so the split is hidden.
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10 Quotes From a Oglala Lakota Chief That Will Make You Question Everything About Our Society

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By Wisdom Pills / wisdompills.com


Luther Standing Bear was an Oglala Lakota Sioux Chief who, among a few rare others such as Charles EastmanBlack Elk and Gertrude Bonnin occupied the rift between the way of life of the Indigenous people of the Great Plains before, and during, the arrival and subsequent spread of the European pioneers. Raised in the traditions of his people until the age of eleven, he was then educated at the Carlisle Indian Industrial Boarding School of Pennsylvania, where he learned the english language and way of life. (Though a National Historical Landmark, Carlisle remains a place of controversy in Native circles.)
Like his above mentioned contemporaries, however, his native roots were deep, leaving him in the unique position of being a conduit between cultures. Though his movement through the white man’s world was not without “success” — he had numerous movie roles in Hollywood — his enduring legacy was the protection of the way of life of his people.

By the time of his death he had published 4 books and had become a leader at the forefront of the progressive movement aimed at preserving Native American heritage and sovereignty, coming to be known as a strong voice in the education of the white man as to the Native American way of life. Here, then, are 10 quotes from the great Sioux Indian Chief known as Standing Bear that will be sure to disturb much of what you think you know about “modern” culture.

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 1) Praise, flattery, exaggerated manners and fine, high-sounding words were no part of Lakota politeness. Excessive manners were put down as insincere, and the constant talker was considered rude and thoughtless. Conversation was never begun at once, or in a hurried manner.
2) Children were taught that true politeness was to be defined in actions rather than in words. They were never allowed to pass between the fire and the older person or a visitor, to speak while others were speaking, or to make fun of a crippled or disfigured person. If a child thoughtlessly tried to do so, a parent, in a quiet voice, immediately set him right.

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3) Silence was meaningful with the Lakota, and his granting a space of silence before talking was done in the practice of true politeness and regardful of the rule that ‘thought comes before speech.’…and in the midst of sorrow, sickness, death or misfortune of any kind, and in the presence of the notable and great, silence was the mark of respect… strict observance of this tenet of good behavior was the reason, no doubt, for his being given the false characterization by the white man of being a stoic. He has been judged to be dumb, stupid, indifferent, and unfeeling.
4) We did not think of the great open plains, the beautiful rolling hills, the winding streams with tangled growth, as ‘wild’. Only to the white man was nature a ‘wilderness’ and only to him was it ‘infested’ with ‘wild’ animals and ‘savage’ people. To us it was tame. Earth was bountiful and we were surrounded with the blessings of the Great Mystery.
5) With all creatures of the earth, sky and water was a real and active principle. In the animal and bird world there existed a brotherly feeling that kept the Lakota safe among them. And so close did some of the Lakotas come to their feathered and furred friends that in true brotherhood they spoke a common tongue.

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 6) This concept of life and its relations was humanizing and gave to the Lakota an abiding love. It filled his being with the joy and mystery of living; it gave him reverence for all life; it made a place for all things in the scheme of existence with equal importance to all.

feet7) It was good for the skin to touch the earth, and the old people liked to remove their moccasins and walk with bare feet on the sacred earth… the old Indian still sits upon the earth instead of propping himself up and away from its life giving forces. For him, to sit or lie upon the ground is to be able to think more deeply and to feel more keenly. He can see more clearly into the mysteries of life and come closer in kinship to other lives about him.
8) Everything was possessed of personality, only differing from us in form. Knowledge was inherent in all things. The world was a library and its books were the stones, leaves, grass, brooks, and the birds and animals that shared, alike with us, the storms and blessings of earth. We learned to do what only the student of nature learns, and that was to feel beauty. We never railed at the storms, the furious winds, and the biting frosts and snows. To do so intensified human futility, so whatever came we adjusted ourselves, by more effort and energy if necessary, but without complaint.
9) …the old Lakota was wise. He knew that a man’s heart, away from nature, becomes hard; he knew that lack of respect for growing, living things soon led to lack of respect for humans, too. So he kept his children close to nature’s softening influence.
10) Civilization has been thrust upon me… and it has not added one whit to my love for truth, honesty, and generosity.

Source: http://www.trueactivist.com/10-quotes-from-a-oglala-lakota-chief-that-will-make-you-question-everything-about-our-society/

Putting mindfulness in the curriculum

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Wow, I can’t believe how much fear people express about teaching their children a little bit of mindful awareness. It sounds like, who believes in organized religion, feels threatened by people who choose to think for themselves.  Personally I think, it would be a blessing for everyone if children get attuned to hearing their inner voice as early as possible in life. Let your children breath!!!
Blessings Edith

TREE HUGGERS: Jack Barlow and Lucy Srzich ‘breathing’ with a plant to help calm themselves.
Lucy says a ‘‘lot of people were giggling’’ when they first tried mindfulness.

Jack Barlow wonders if “neophyte” is in the classroom dictionary (it isn’t). He queries if Charles next to him knows there are more than 120 meanings for “set” (he doesn’t).
It’s thoughts like these that “race” through young Jack’s busy mind. But the 11-year-old is doing his best to concentrate as one of 20 students staring intently at a man, perched like a grasshopper, brandishing a golden stick and bowl in a classroom at Westmere Primary school in central Auckland. Legs crossed, arms folded – out of habit, not instruction – they wait for him to stir the stick. A ringing echoes; everyone inhales.

It’s not easy. Sitting completely still never is at that age. Morning tea is 20 minutes away. Yet students must concentrate on their arms, legs and “deep belly breathing.”

1416129208576 (1)“When your mind wanders,” drones instructor Grant Rix, “gently say ‘wandering’.” Then: “notice the sensations in your feet.”

Westmere Primary School has been part of the Mental Health Foundation’s (MHF) Mindfulness in Schools programme for two years. The trials, lasting eight weeks, included five other schools, four from Auckland and one in rural Southland, and the early results are promising.
Teachers kept journal entries on the progress of the 20-minute lessons and a survey three months later assessed the potential long-term impact, with researchers from Auckland University and the Auckland University of Technology studying the results.
“We found it improved students’ self-control, attentiveness, respect for other classmates and enhanced the school’s mood,” says Rix. It was beneficial for teachers too – many reported reduced stress in their personal lives.

descargaRix – the man with the golden stick and bowl – works for the MHF and has been practising mindfulness for 15 years. He developed mindfulness in schools after seeing similar trials overseas.
And the benefits were plentiful, according to Teck Wee, a teacher at another participating primary school, Te Papapa, who reported gradual change in students as the programme continued: “They were thinking more about how their own behaviour affected situations, rather than how other kids’ behaviour was affecting them.”
He recalls one troublesome student who would run, swear, fight, attack teachers and was academically two years behind.
“Mindfulness has given him some anger management strategies and cleared up his thought process. Now where he gets angry he’s not just sorry, but he talks about what he did wrong and what he will do next time.”

So why is mindfulness the latest buzzword among the US marines, rapper 50 Cent, a group of British MPs (all of whom practise mindfulness) and yoga mums alike? It’s less a buzzword, explains Rix, and more about getting rid of buzz.
It’s a tricky concept but at its simplest mindfulness is about focusing on the present. What it’s not about is only reducing stress (because then you’re striving for something). Or emptying your mind of all thoughts (they prefer you to observe your current ones). Or religion.

descarga (1)The technique draws on breathing exercises often used in meditation and Buddhism, but there the comparison ends. The aim is to be more aware of thoughts and feelings.
It sounds deceptively vague and hippie-ish but, stresses Rix, this isn’t about chanting and spirituality.
Not everyone is onside. The Ministry of Education received five formal complaints from parents at Riversdale School in the South Island after their principal proposed introducing mindfulness classes.
Katrina Casey, head of sector enablement and support at the MOE, says mindfulness shares some characteristics with Buddhism but isn’t specifically tied to the religion.
“There has been growing interest from schools in the technique. Earlier this year the Secondary Principals’ Association of New Zealand had a guest speaker talk about mindfulness at their annual conference.
“We do not advocate one behaviour management programme over another and we did not commission the Mental Health Foundation’s programme [it was funded by donations]. However, it’s not uncommon for teachers to encourage students to reflect on their behaviour.”

descarga (2)Other schools, she says, are trialling the ‘My Friends’ youth resilience programme as part of a wider, multi-agency initiative aimed at supporting student mental health and wellbeing.
“Schools have a lot of flexibility on all decisions relating to the curriculum and how they encourage good behaviour. Any school is free to introduce such a practice, if backed by its board of trustees in consultation with the school community.”
The modern mindfulness movement, says Rix, is equally informed by neuroscience and psychology.
“It’s nothing new for a secular society to adopt practices from elsewhere and then to study them scientifically, validate and integrate them into secular context.
“It’s a misconception,” he says of the complaints. “But people are entitled to their own views.”

Various district health boards across New Zealand use an eight-week mindfulness course to treat severely depressed or anxious patients. Evidence suggests mindfulness can improve people’s ability to handle stress and alleviate depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress and eating disorders.
Overseas, in 2011 Jacob Piet and Esben Hougaard of Aarhus University, Denmark, published a review of the eight-week course in Clinical Psychology Review.
After six clinical trials with 593 people, they concluded mindfulness-based therapy reduced the risk of relapse for patients with at least three previous incidents of depression by 43 per cent compared to people who received regular treatment. However, there were no significant benefits for people with fewer than three major incidents.

descarga (3)It sounds a simple panacea – safe, relatively cheap, no heavy objects or pills. At times it comes close to channelling New Age waffle, but Westmere Primary’s principal, Carolyn Marino, is a firm believer in the benefits.
“There’s far more anxiety among children than when I first started teaching,” she reflects on her 20-year career. “More children have social and emotional disorders as a result of our society.
“Life isn’t as predictable as it used to be and parents are putting pressure on their children – not necessarily on purpose – but questioning if they’re working hard enough to get that job.”
Marino’s received no complaints – parents who had doubts were swayed after an information evening and now some indulge in mindfulness with their children after nightmares.
“Children live in this digital age where they are constantly being got at and don’t have enough down time to get away from that stimulus. Mindfulness gives them a strategy that helps them be a little more present.”
With so much on our minds at any given time we function regularly on autopilot. We don’t think about the physical and mental process that goes into, say, climbing a set of stairs and rightly so – we’d take forever to get anywhere.

meditateSuch mindlessness is why we often walk into a room forgetting our initial purpose or fail to remember what happened on a three hour journey. Mindfulness teaches us to be present rather than distracted by the past or projecting into the future.
So a mindfulness exercise could be having a shower. Instead of thinking about how your day was or what you need to do, simply notice what’s going on – the floor is wet, the air is steamy, the water hot and so on. Don’t judge if it’s a good or bad shower. Just notice it.
The principles and practice of “mindful leadership” are taught at Harvard; and Oxford University has its own Mindfulness Centre carrying out research into clinical and general health benefits.
Recently the World Health Organisation warned that by 2030 mental health issues will have become society’s biggest healthcare burden.
“This is going to come to a state where [mindfulness in schools] isn’t a luxury – it will have to be a necessity,” says Marino. “I worry about the mental health of our children and the society we’re moving into. The sense of risking failure is very prevalent; the need to be perfect is becoming increasingly obvious in young children.”
Eleven year old Lucy Srzich has taken such a liking for the programme that the time the CD malfunctioned, she led the class.
She was hesitant at first, and some of her friends thought the programme sounded silly. That first session, “a lot of people were giggling,” she says. But she was won over, as were her friends and parents who “researched it and then they were into it”.
Srzich continues to use mindful breathing when she is flustered or angry and needs a moment to calm down.
At the end of 20 minutes’ deep-belly breathing, Rix invites the class to share feedback. “It was just normal, yeah . . .” shrugs one student. Another is more receptive: “I feel like the square around me came out of the ground and floated in the air” he explains, to a flurry of giggles.

imagesA common theme was the light, calm, fresh and relaxed feeling most students notice. If anything, mindfulness is doing wonders for their vocabulary. One explains: “I feel relaxed and calm every time I do this. I notice if I’m feeling worried and I never notice that when I’m playing, then it just builds up until I can’t calm down.”
Another chimes in: “It feels like the world stops spinning; I feel more of the little things.”
Marino took a mindfulness course herself when she was finding her early years as a principal stressful.

“It would be great if every child could be exposed to it as a strategy they could implement into their daily lives,” she argues. “What a great time to start. We try to get kids eating healthier and exercising, setting up those behaviours early on. Young people always seem to be looking into the future or something that isn’t necessarily their reality.
“We often work with our children on anger management strategies around breathing and taking anger out on things that are non-animate – telephone books, for example. This is a nice strategy for kids who might have issues with needing to get back to a place where they can make a sensible decision before they punch somebody.”

92Rix agrees. The biggest feedback from both students and teachers is that it has become easier to identify emotions.
“They’re beginning to recognise how that manifests in their body as a physical sensation and understand what they’re feeling is going to pass. They’ve got this skill where they can drop anchor by paying attention to their breathing and just allow that anger to diffuse in a healthy way rather than lashing out.”
Next year he plans to extend the programme to intermediate schools. The final results of the study will be published early in the new year and Rix hopes they will persuade the Ministry of Education to invest.
It’s not quantitative stuff that can be measured in tests, says Marino, but it’s a building block.
“If you give kids enough exposure and skills they start to build a toolkit and that’s where I see mindfulness sitting. You’re not going to change kids overnight but you can create a shift in how they see themselves or deal with things that come into their lives.”

At the end of the course, children are encouraged to bring in something that will encourage them to practise mindfulness.
Soft toys are popular; one girl brings in a pink fluffy cushion, saying that whenever she cuddles it she practises mindful breathing.
“Others bring in mind jars they have made,” says Rix. “Sometimes a little pebble. Pieces of fruit are popular as well.”
Rix quotes a colleague who worked with a student from a difficult background who had trouble controlling his emotions.
“He was so taken with breathing with the green plants that he came and sat next to the plants I had in the chapel at the end of class, closed his eyes and observed his breathing for several more minutes.
“He asked me if he could take one to keep in his room.”

Source; http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/education/63216075/Putting-mindfulness-in-the-curriculums