Listening With the Heart to Those Who Cannot Speak

Dear Freinds,
this article makes hope and made me cry at the same time! As I am also an empath  and an emotional intuitive, I was in many situations where I could feel the pain of animals. Wherer the energetic field talked to me about their horror and suffering. And some of them shared their happiness, their deep passion for life and for a connection with human beings. It is time we take better care of our fellow animal friends! A wonderful story that fits beautifully to the time we are in – the time to call back the animals into co-creation of a new – harmonious world for all beings!! AHO! Love and best connections!!!
Edith
How a chance encounter with a Horse demonstrates the power of listening with the heart.

As an emotional intuitive, I often find myself called into unchartered territory to be of service to help individuals and animals. It is in these moments that I witness the greatest potential for miracles. Synchronicity does not shout; it whispers, to see if you are listening and courageous enough to be of service.
After a long hike on a Sunday afternoon, my husband and I were famished, but we had arrived at our favorite restaurant only to find that it wouldn’t be open for another hour. It seemed like an easy choice to simply find another place to eat.
But something in my gut said, “Wait!”
We decided to aimlessly tour the countryside for that hour and eventually crossed a street named after my hometown. We giggled and turned the corner. Strolling past the rolling hills of cattle, horses, and sheep; we felt at peace.

Further down the road, I had a strange feeling as we approached a horse isolated in a small pen 25 feet in diameter. He was separated from a group of horses across the road. Intuitively, I could feel the pain and anxiety the horse was experiencing. I told my husband that something was wrong and he asked if he should pull over.
Synchronicity had led me here to be of service so my darling husband happily obliged. Afraid to get out of the car for fear of overstepping personal boundaries, I could feel the inner struggle between being of service to this horse who couldn’t speak for himself and the fear of being yelled at or shot. But the horse’s suffering was too intense to disregard; I decided to act with courage.

horse-eyeI approached the horse in his pen slowly, allowing him to see the loving intention in my eyes and heart. I telepathically let him know that I was there to connect with him and that I cared about what he was feeling. I felt an immediate burst of joy come from inside his heart.

The horse allowed me to feel his deep grief and anxiety. He felt unacceptable and alone. He felt a strong sense of panic, anxiety, humiliation, abandonment, and bewilderment. He didn’t know who he could trust and was terribly unhappy in the tiny pen filled with his own feces that he was left in. This left him feeling humiliated and rejected.
The horse’s pen was one of those pens that had been used for breaking them. I saw a flash of the horse’s past where he was beaten into submission by previous owners, men who had whipped him repeatedly.
The experiences had left him emotionally scarred. Being left alone in that pen told him that he was unacceptable psychologically. I could feel that no matter how many times he had tried to trust, he had been consistently betrayed, mistreated, and left alone. He longed to be free, grazing with the other horses in the pasture. Most people do not understand that horses, like other conscious animals, form attachments and have real emotions like humans.
With all of this information, I knew I wanted to overcome my own fear of being misunderstood and potentially harmed in order to do what I could to help the horse relay this message to his current owner.
I left a detailed note and my phone number with the owner and let the horse know that his wishes had been communicated. He responded by trying to play with me, grabbing with his mouth at the ends of my clothing to pull me in to the pen with him. He really wanted to connect with someone who saw him for the beautiful and intelligent spirit that he is.

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On our way home, I was surprised to receive a phone call from the horse’s owner and could therefore explain our chance encounter in more detail. “You are very in tune!” she said, to my surprise and delight.

She told me that the horse had bonded with her daughter but since she had just had knee surgery, she was not able to get out to see him. This explained why he felt so abandoned and alone. She went on to tell me that the horse had seven previous owners, many of whom had severely beat him and forced him to do very hard work. Most recently, he had been relocated from Oklahoma where someone in their family had passed away.
“Did you notice the broken gate on the pen?” she asked. “Yes,” I replied. “He broke free during a thunderstorm one night about two months ago” she said.
Could you imagine being trapped in a small pen alone in the dark during a violent thunder and lightning storm? Just like you, the horse was afraid as he had no where to hide and was terrified.
“But he lived in Oklahoma” she said. “They have great big storms there.”

She didn’t understand that horses are just like people. We all need shelter and a place to feel safe. Even horses get scared. I offered solutions to help the horse adjust to his new home and family in a more interconnected way by possibly contacting the owner of the adjacent property to see if the horse could socialize with the others. She was very grateful and happy to respond to make the situation better immediately. I was happy that I did not allow my fear to get in the way of trying to alleviate the suffering of another being. It was an honor to communicate empathically with a beautiful life force who could not speak for himself.
Many people do not understand the emotional intelligence of other species, but would be changed forever once they did. Words create division but we can connect universally through the empathic language of the heart. No matter what life form you find yourself engaging with, try practicing deep listening and speaking through the emotional compass of your heart. What you will discover is that the world is a much more interesting place.

WORDS BY DAWN AGNOS
Source: http://upliftconnect.com/listening-with-the-heart/

New Study Links Social Anxiety To Being An Empath

21Written by Amateo Ra| Have you ever felt anxious being around other people? For some, the feelings of social anxiety can be so intense that someone can feel totally paralyzed just to be out in public. Could social anxiety’s hidden link to empathy give us a greater understanding into the lives of those affected?

Social anxiety can often be an extremely confusing, challenging and even interesting experience for many. Fear is the primary feeling generally attributed to social anxiety, and those who experience it often can’t seem to discover the origin of the social anxiety within themselves.

All logic can seem to fail in the face of social anxiety. The feelings associated may not seem to go away even with common treatments & healing techniques. Social anxiety overtime can turn into stories of being judged, not belonging or feeling so alienated that you look at Earth as the furthest thing from being at home.
A new Scientific Study recently released published on PubMed shows that people with social phobias and anxieties are hypersensitive to other peoples states of mind. People who are more socially anxious are able to discern the mental states of people much more accurately. As the study concluded:

Results support the hypothesis that high socially anxious individuals may demonstrate a unique social-cognitive abilities profile with elevated cognitive empathy tendencies and high accuracy in affective mental state attributions.
This helps shed major light on the subject, finding a hidden link between social anxiety and being an Empath. They used specific testing to measure levels of empathy within specific individuals, and found that those same individuals demonstrated high levels of social anxiety-like behavior.

angstAnxiety – What does it all mean?

It means that the very ability to feel the energy, emotions and feelings of others can be extremely overwhelming to the point of inducing social anxiety for the average empathic person.
Most importantly, it means that if you are experiencing Social Anxiety, it could be because you are a highly sensitive person with a very special gift.

I believe this awareness can dramatically affect those who suffer from Social Anxiety, as rather than feeling like something is wrong with you and that you need to be fixed, psychologically, medically and with pharmaceuticals, you can just simply be very aware of your energy and how being around others affects you.

Being an Empath means you literally feel what other people are experiencing emotionally. You can feel it in your body, your mood, sensations and in your thoughts. You can also feel it consciously and on a subtle level without realizing it, which is what this recent study found.

Man with conceptual spiritual body artAs a culture we tend to be a highly emotionally illiterate species, not knowing what to do with our emotions, how to process them, and consciously relate to them. This can lead to a lot of people carrying very heavy emotional baggage or emotional pollution. And a lot of people means a lot of weight, and being an Empath you can easily feel all the unspoken things other people are carrying.

Of course, if you are around a lot of people with a lot of emotional pollution, you are going to pick up on that and feel all of that energy, thus leading to the connection to Social Anxiety.

Interestingly enough, the study also correlated empathy and social anxiety to understanding the mental state of others. Meaning, as an empath, you not only can you understand how other people feel, you can understand how they think and the frame of mind they are taking in making their decisions.

telepathy.jpeg.pagespeed.ce.5PHqC3p5ENAs an Empath, it can be a lot for someone to handle, as the source of their discomfort is not just the weight of their own life’s challenges and experiences, but also the energy of others all around them, both the good and the bad, all of which can be a lot to integrate and digest.

It’s worth mentioning, from experience and hearing the stories of those who have broken through social anxiety, many have done so by working on healing themselves, changing their surroundings, being careful of what environments they place themselves within and who around, as well as being more conscious of the energy they take on, spending more time in nature, and practicing clearing it, processing and integrating emotional energy, as to not get toxic with the feelings of the World.

I believe this is major news, and that more scientific studies like this are needed to give ourselves a deep glimpse into what makes us humans, full of a vast range of often incomprehensible experiences. As we get to shed light on the functions of and inner-workings of human energetics, we can create more conscious relationships toward each other.

you-are-an-empath.jpg.pagespeed.ce.GRQYfYXo-xSo in all, if you are an Empath with Social Anxiety, you’re not crazy! You are normal person with a specific kind of design, purpose, and unique yet shared experience of life.
Be easy on yourself and conscious with what kind of people and surroundings you immerse yourself in, as there is a strongly likelihood you will take on what they are feeling, or trying to ignore feeling, and it’s important you don’t let it make you crazy!

Source: http://www.spiritscienceandmetaphysics.com/new-study-links-social-anxiety-to-being-empath/

also read this relate articles: https://edithboyertelmer.wordpress.com/2014/10/13/30-traits-of-the-empaths-are-you-one/
https://edithboyertelmer.wordpress.com/2015/01/23/1053/
https://edithboyertelmer.wordpress.com/2015/02/15/solar-expansion-the-divine-mother-energy-and-multi-dimensional-experience/

It takes a lot of information to get the bigger picture together… use this articles to inform yourself! hope you enjoy and have fun!!

Blessings Edith

Unconditional Self-love and the Inner Child

If the development of personal power is the first golden key to psychological and spiritual health, then unconditional self-love is most definitely the second golden key.
Personal power and self-love are the building blocks of a healthy self concept and self image. The most important relationship in a person’s life is his relationship to himself. If we are wrong with ourselves, we will be wrong with all other relationships. If we are off center in ourselves, how can we be on center with others?
Self-love begins with the understanding that there are two types of love in the world. They are conditional love and unconditional love. Conditional love is egotistical love. Unconditional love is spiritual love. This type of love applies to others, but more importantly first applies to ourselves.

The first key question we each must ask ourselves is whether we love ourselves conditionally or unconditionally. Unconditional self-love is based on the understanding that we have worth and we are lovable because God created us. We are sons and daughters of God. God doesn’t make junk. Of course we have worth. If we don’t have worth then God doesn’t have worth. In other words, our worth and lovableness is a spiritual inheritance.

If you don’t believe this, then your ego steps in and says, “I have a different interpretation.” The ego says your worth and lovableness are based on meeting certain conditions. You have to have a certain kind of physical body. You have to go to college, have money, have a high paying job, be in a certain social status, be perfect, be spiritual, meditate, exercise, have a relationship, get good grades, be successful, and so on.

Now a lot of these things are very noble things to strive for and I recommend that you continue to do so. However, they have nothing to do with your self-love and self-worth.
Your self-love and self-worth come from who you are, not what you do. There are no conditions you have to meet. You can do everything in your life right or everything in your life wrong, and your worth and lovableness are the same. This cannot be emphasized more emphatically.

Self-Hugging (activerain.com)A good metaphor for understanding this is to imagine that you just had a baby. Does this baby have to do anything to have worth or value? Does it have to look a certain way? Isn’t there just an inherent value in the spark of life? Of course, your baby is of value and lovable. Don’t you continue to love that child as it grows older, even if it gets into trouble or fails the first grade spelling test?

The point I am now coming to is that there is a difference between the soul that is that child and the child’s behavior. The soul is always lovable and worthy. The behavior may not always be so. This is an extremely important discrimination to make with others and with yourself.

Taking this analogy a step farther, we are God’s children. God gave birth to us. Don’t you think He loves us as you would love your child? And don’t you think He continues to love us even though we make mistakes in the spiritual school called Earth life?
So the question is: At what age does a child lose its inherent value? We all seem to have it up to a certain age. It is quite ludicrous if you think about it. God loves us even though our behavior is often bad. Certainly He would prefer we got it together, but He loves us even if we don’t.

Another facet of self-love that has been brought out here is that we need to love ourselves as God loves us unconditionally! Jesus said, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” You will notice he didn’t say to love your neighbor and hate yourself.
You can determine where you are on your spiritual path by seeing how much you love your neighbor and how much you are loving yourself. We also need to learn to allow ourselves to feel God’s love. God’s love is like the sun. It is always shining. It is just a matter of whether we are going to give ourselves permission to receive it.

One of my favorite metaphors is that we are diamonds with mud on us. God created us so we are diamonds. Our faulty egotistical negative thinking has put mud on us. I am trying to get out the hose and wash off the illusions of faulty thinking and show you the “real you”. Your true identity is the Christ, the perfect creation of God. It is only the ego’s false, negative, pessimistic interpretation of you that makes you feel unworthy or unlovable.

images (2)Earth is a school. Our mistakes are not held against us. There are no such things as sins. There are only mistakes. Some believe that a sin is like some stain on our character that cannot be removed. This is absurd. Mistakes are positive. Did you fully hear and get that? Mistakes are positive! You don’t go out of your way to make them. But if they happen, you learn from them.

Every mistake is a blessing in disguise because there is always a golden nugget of wisdom to be learned. We learn the easy way or by the school of hard knocks. We are in this school to know ourselves and, hence, know God. God’s universe is governed by laws. There are physical laws, psychological laws and spiritual laws. We learn by making mistakes and then making adjustments.

The spiritual path up the mountain is five steps forward and four backward; seven forward then six backward. Don’t buy into the ego’s game of creating this impossible perfectionistic standard where mistakes are unacceptable. The spirit believes in striving for perfection but looks at mistakes as positive and unavoidable.

 

Life as a Dream

When we go to sleep at night and have a nightmare, we wake up and say to ourselves, “Boy, am I glad that was just a dream; it seemed so real while I was sleeping!” Well, that is what I am saying to you right now. Wake up from that bad dream or negative hypnosis you have been experiencing. Snap out of it!
Wake up! Let the mud fall off your diamond and see who you really are. You are the most valuable precious thing in all creation. Do you think God loves a rock or tree more than His own children who are made in His image?

Now comes the key to the whole process. Your thoughts create your reality. Your thoughts don’t create truth. They just create the reality of the people who are thinking them. In other words, if you think you are unworthy, then you are going to live in the nightmare and self created hell of your own thought creation.
You will live in your own bad dream and nightmare, even though it really isn’t true. You are what you think. The great need is to push these false unworthy and unlovable attitudes out of your mind and to start affirming the truth about yourself. By doing this you will re-record a new message into your subconscious tape recorder.

 

images (1)Selfish-Selfless Balance

Another aspect of self-love is what I call the selfish¬ selfless balance. This means there is a time to be selfish and there is a time to be selfless. To be selfless is to direct your energies to helping others. To be selfish is to take care of yourself. The spiritual path is the path of balance. We are not here to be martyrs. We must learn to be spiritually selfish.
Many very sincere and good spiritual people misunderstand this. I am not saying you shouldn’t help others. The greatest among you is the servant of all. I am just saying that you have to take care of yourself also. You are a part of God. You are a son or daughter of God.
Not to be spiritually selfish at times is to reject a part of God. If you are too selfless you will probably be resentful. The great lesson is that when you are selfish don’t feel guilty, and when you are selfless, give and don’t feel resentful. Be decisive in whatever decision you make.

 

Developing an Understanding of the Inner Child

The second major understanding in obtaining unconditional self-love deals with the understanding of the inner child. We all have a relationship to ourselves. I have called this, at times, a right relationship to self. What is this self I am talking about? Another name for this self is the inner child or inner self. In other words, we each parent ourselves.
I am suggesting that there are two ways of parenting ourselves or a real external child. There is a spiritual way of parenting or an egotistical way or parenting. The spiritual way of parenting is to be firm but loving (yin and yang balanced).

The wrong way to parent is to be too firm or too permissive and spoiling. A parent who is too firm is critical. When a parent is too critical this creates a child who is unworthy or deflated or who feels unloved. A too lenient parent creates a child who is spoiled or rebellious. A firm and loving parent creates a balanced, well adjusted child.
The first step in understanding this whole process is to look at how your parents raised you. Were they critical or firm and loving? It is very likely that you treat yourself the exact way your parents treated you. Now look at how you raised your children. And lastly look at how you are currently raising your own inner child

I want to make it clear that your inner child is a psychic reality. Learning to raise our inner child properly is one of the most important skills we can possibly learn. We will also be much better parents to our real children when we learn to parent ourselves properly.

 

What Do We Do If Our Parenting Skills Need Improvement?

When we are being too critical and judgmental with ourselves, what is really happening is “child abuse”. I am sure that, if you saw child abuse occurring at the market or a neighbor’s house you would step in and say something to stop it. What would you do if someone was abusing your children when they were younger? I am sure you would respond like a mother or father bear to protect your child. Well, that is what you need to start doing with your inner child.
The critical parent is like an evil baby sitter, with whom you have unwittingly left your child. Now you are returning (waking up) to reclaim your child as your own. Your child needs protection and you need to start giving your child the protection he or she needs.

What this means psychologically is that when the critical parent attitudes start whipping and beating your inner child, stop them! It doesn’t matter what you say. Put up your protective bubble and shield and say, “The buck stops here. I am not going to let my little child get beaten or abused any longer. I am going to protect him. I love my inner child and will not let my inner child continue to be hurt or beaten.”
When the over indulgent parent steps in and wants to be permissive, you do the same thing. You say, “No”. You say, “I am sick of this extremism. I don’t want to be too yin or too yang. I want balance. Get out!” You push the permissive parent thought out of your mind.

The second step after pushing the critical or permissive parent out of your mind is to affirm that you are going to be firm and loving toward yourself from now on. By continually doing this the critical or permissive parent will die from lack of attention and focus, and the firm and loving parent style will develop from attention and focus. It will take practice and constant vigilance. Just remember that if you choose to forget this, you are allowing child abuse to take place in your own mental home. Do you want to allow your inner child to be whipped and beaten or spoiled rotten?
What also must be considered here is that if improper parenting has taken place, then the inner child is going to be in need of healing just as a real child would be after being abused. The inner child who has had a critical parent is going to need a lot of extra love and nurturing. The inner child who has had a permissive spoiling parent is going to need “tough love”. A child who is acting out in real life needs to be sat on a little bit, not in a critical way but in a tough love way.

1-woman-hugging-self-lgnThe child has had more power than the parent. This needs to change. The parent is in charge, and the inner child needs to be told this. You may have to get real tough in the beginning to get the point across, just as you would with a real child. The inner child will get the message if he sees that you mean business. The inner child doesn’t really like being out of control anyway.

Your inner child desperately wants your unconditional love just as a real child does. Down deep, your inner child wants firmness and limits just as a real child does. If you are firm and loving then your inner and outer child will develop and internalize this to develop firmness, self control, personal power, and self-love within themselves.

 

Dialoguing

A very valuable and helpful tool in developing the proper relationships and psycho dynamics here is to dialogue with these different parts in your journal. Talk to your inner child and see how they are feeling. Then let the inner child talk back as you imagine they would respond. Dialogue with the critical and with the permissive parent, then with the firm and loving parent. Get more deeply in touch with how these dynamics are operating within you. You might even add your Higher Self into the dialogue and see what it has to add to the whole process.

There is a very interesting point about that last suggestion. The Huna teachings from Hawaii call the Higher Self the “utterly trustworthy parental self. I find that fascinating. In other words, we need to learn to parent ourselves as our Higher Selves parent us. Don’t our Higher Selves parent us with firmness and love, tough love?

 

1-woman-hugging-self-lgnVictory Log

This next suggestion is absolutely essential for fully stabilizing self-love and self-worth. So far we have talked about self-love on the essence level, the essence level being that we have worth and love because we are sons and daughters of God.

There is also a form level. In other words, we also need to feel good about what we are doing and creating in our lives. The critical parent spends all of its time being a perfectionist in a negative sense, looking for what we are doing wrong. In a given day you may be doing things ninety eight percent well, but the critical parent will spend the entire day focusing on the two percent you are doing wrong. This doesn’t make sense.
Proportionately you should be ninety eight percent happy that day. Is the glass of water half empty or half full? The purpose of the victory log is to look at what you are doing well, not at what you are doing poorly.

There are two steps to developing a proper victory log. The first step is to go over your entire life with a fine toothed comb and list all things that you have done well in your life. List all your fine attributes and qualities. List everything, no matter how minute. By doing this you will automatically feel good about yourself. Your perspective has changed. You are seeing things the way your Higher Self would have you see them.

The second step in the victory log is, every night before bed and every morning, add to the list and review the victories of that day and that week. By doing this you are giving yourself and your inner child strokes, “credit”, a positive reinforcement, love, psychological hugs and kisses. Tell the inner child how much you appreciate their cooperation and teamwork. You might tell your Higher Self the same thing. Together you are an unbeatable team.

 

What Do You Do When You Make Big Mistakes?

When you do make big mistakes, keep the critical parent out. It is okay to make observations about yourself or others. This is also called spiritual discernment or discrimination. It is called this because it is done in unconditional love. Whatever the mistake is, gain the golden nugget of wisdom from the experience and it then becomes a positive experience. If you truly learn from this “mistake” you will never have to go through a similar suffering ever again. Tell yourself that you are worthy and lovable even though you made a mistake or error in judgment. Tell yourself that mistakes are positive and unavoidable. Pick yourself up and get on with it.

A crucial part of self-love is forgiveness. You have a choice whether to subscribe to a philosophy of forgiveness or holding grudges. This applies to yourself also. Remember if you hold grudges, you are holding it against the inner child. Would you hold the same kind of grudge against your real child when he was little? If you want to be forgiven by God, don’t you think it is necessary to give the same energy back in return to your self and others?

 

What Happens To People Who Don’t Have Self-love?

If you don’t have unconditional self-love within yourself, then automatically you end up seeking it outside of self. Love is a survival need. Children have actually been known to die in institutions from lack of love.

The ideal is to give love to yourself and to allow yourself to receive God’s unchanging unconditional love. If you don’t do this then you end up seeking love, approval, acceptance from other people. This puts you in a compromised position. Other people become your computer programmers and the cause of your reality. Your worth is in their hands and control. Do you really want other people to hold this power and control over you? Not having self-love puts a hole in your protective bubble so that when people criticize you, you can’t protect yourself.

The ideal is to give yourself so much love, and to allow yourself to feel God’s full Love, that you go into life feeling totally powerful and totally loved before you meet another human being. You are ideally feeling full, whole and complete within yourself, and feeling your oneness with God.
You are so filled with love that you can give love to others even if they don’t love you. In essence, you want love; you don’t need love. You prefer love; you are not attached and addicted to getting love. The attitude of a more self actualized person is to form a right relationship to yourself and a right relationship to God first.

These are the two most important relationships in your life. You then can move into life as a whole, causal, masterful, independent person; a person who is in the world to give rather than needing to get, to fill an empty void within the self. This is the work of the spiritual path.

We actually have it all right now. The only problem is that we think we don’t. We live in the nightmare of self inflicted limitations that isn’t even real. We can get rid of these limitations any time we want by owning our power and taking command over our minds by the denial and affirming process. (See Self-love Affirmations and Visualization)

 

101Your True Self: The Causal Consciousness Self

Recognize that you have both a child and a parent self within you. It is important to realize, however, that even though everyone has to deal with these psychological dynamics, the real you is neither the parent nor the child. The real you is “consciousness” or “I” that is choosing what kind of parent and what kind of child dynamic you are creating within yourself.

The real you is the observer self, who is the controller, director, chooser and causer. The key to being the causer is the understanding of the need to be disidentified from the content of consciousness. You are not your thoughts, feelings, emotions, body, behavior, actions, personality, mistakes, successes, abilities, past, future, beliefs nor any of the content of consciousness.

You are the essence and not the form. You are the consciousness, not the creation. You can direct and control only that from which you are disidentified. That with which you, as the consciousness or “I” are identified, will be your master. In living in this world we must deal with form. This is why it is essential that you choose and cause the form of what kind of parent you are going to be to yourself.

Do a visualization, putting all the things you have thought were you (the content of consciousness) into a big metal pot that is now in the middle of your nature scene. Put everything in it until you are naked of all mental, emotional or physical form. All that is left is a center of pure awareness with nothing in it. Practice taking qualities, attitudes, feelings, beliefs, abilities, and non abilities and trying them on and then throwing them back in the pot. Practice identifying, then disidentifying. Practice being the controller, causer and creator of your life, like you would in a play or theater. Always remember what your real Self is and who and what you are.

The Source of this article is: http://iamuniversity.org/unconditional-self-love-and-the-inner-child/

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