Shifting From Spiritual Bypassing Into Authentic Transcendence

by Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
over the past few years I have increasingly heard the term spiritual bypassing, coming up in articles about the collective awakening into the Golden Age of Aquarius, on social media as well as in rather random conversations.  In the town that I have called my home for twelve years of my life, I witnessed how in some of the current youth movements on planet earth, the seemingly easy path of bypassing problems with fun and a high energy level is a common one. A fact that triggered feelings of concern in me, when I got aware of how far the method has spread by now.
Now  don’t get me wrong, based on all that I am aware off about my inner sabotage mechanisms, I was not living in the illusion that I have no blind spots myself, but what I discovered just the other day has definitely topped everything I thought I could still have hidden from myself. Triggered by my landlords announcement that he will in future need my current living space for himself, I had a profound inside about my hidden fear body and how it has influenced my life so far.

For many of you it might be a wonderful thing to change location for fun, education or to take up a wonderful job offer, but that is not how I generally feel about moving house. Early in my life I learned that I will need an anchor that is centered in the inside world, rather than a physical space. When I was ten years old, my father lost his company and in the restless attempt to safe the company, than lost our house and only home that our eight people family ever shared together.
When I looked back over the years, I was mainly occupied with taking in the many details of the intense social change of environment that it was for me, my mother and my only other brother; who kept living together after the big bang, which also had lead to the divorce of my parents and the split of my family.

When I was guided by the spirit world to continue my life in Guatemala in the age of 37, I had no idea about the life conditions in the country and the path I was about to take. Many years followed that I had to go from property to property, until I finally moved into a home build by myself and thought of as “forever home”. About a year ago, I had the impression that the environmental changes in town have come to a point, that my life can no longer flourish there. So I packed up my four dogs and a minimum of belongings and moved.
“Why was this time so important” you might ask, it’s because I saw the bigger context in my emotional reactions to this events, and could evaluate the impact they have on my life. For the first time I remembered that there has been a time within the home transition phase in my youth, where we have been homeless. I never had thought about that again and never wondered what it did to my sense of security.
Well now I do, in all details, and I am working on a long list of forgiveness for myself and an elevation of my natural sense of security on planet earth.

When we cultivate mystical awareness or transcendent identity – which is a natural outgrowth of meditation and other practices – what happens is that we begin to take a witness position on our own lives, and that includes our minds.
James Redfield

I trust that when people meet, we meet for a transcendent reason, and that the challenges we face in life are always lessons that serve our soul’s growth.
Marianne Williamson

I need an inspiration that is grounded in reality while thoroughly transcendent.
John Ortberg

Although sometimes the morbid is also the transcendent, the transcendent cannot be reduced to the morbid.
Siri Hustvedt

Allow me to share this little clip with you, which is one of the most hilarious examples of spiritual bypassing that I ever saw, and randomly came up on a tv show while I was thinking about this article :-)….

Nothing is Ever Anyone’s Fault – Crazy Ex-Girlfriend
Before I knew you I did bad things and didn’t know why
But now, I know youAnd I’ve learned to look inside
I understand what makes me
Frightened and sad
So, yes, I still do bad things
But are they actually bad?
No!Because nothing is ever anyone’s fault
We’re all just products of childhood trauma
Nothing is ever anyone’s fault
Pain causes anger and fear causes drama

We can’t control
The things we do
Just like I can’t control
That I’m in love with youI was raised to believe
That every person’s in charge of their fate
But now, I clearly see
That my father’s a d*ck and he filled me with hate
You were the first person who told me that

Maybe you have a point

I was brought up by a fat-shaming mom
Who made me take laxatives
The week before prom (Yep!)
Now, I overeat ever since that abuse

See?
Psychology is a great excuse

Nothing is ever anyone’s fault
Nothing is ever anyone’s fault
John Wayne Gacy was hit by his dad
Exactly!
It wasn’t technically Hitler’s fault
Wasn’t technically Hitler’s fault
Hitler’s brother died
And that made him super sad

It’s hard to paint people with evil or glory
When you know that everyone’s
Got a tragic backstory

Free will’s an illusion
Morality is, too
So, it’s not my fault that
My parents messed me up’
Cause their parents messed them up
And Adam and Eve were messed up by God
Who was messed up originally by the Big Bang

Everything is the Big Bang’s fault!
Good point!
Energy in space was the ultimate bad father
Nothing is nobody’s fault

Nothing is nobody’s
Is that a double negative?
Eh, it sounds good, why bother?
But I’m glad for the trauma
I’m glad for it, too
Cause my past is what led me
To fall in love with you
Lyrics by Aline Brosh McKenna, Jack Dolgen, Adam Schlesinger, Rachel Bloom; Lyrics Source: Songtexte.co

Dear ones, I hope if you have just watched the video – that you are feeling highly entertained right now. Laughter is the best medicine, they say; it is for sure the most healthy respond to the discovery, that we are not quite as perfect as we hope to be. The good news is, that the Golden Age of Aquarius is build on personal authenticity and clarity, not so much on perfectionism :-). Keep rising my friends!
Love and Blessings
Edith

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Self-Compassion in 3 Steps – Tips from The Buddha

by Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
by now we nearly passed the first week of the increasing wave of frequency shifts, that will go on until the 11th of November. Like I mentioned the energy impacts can get as intense as in September, which is why The Enlightened Being the Buddha Gautama is supporting us in our process. One thing the Buddha is promoting to us as important ascension tool, is the practice of SELF-COMPASSION.  

This is what he shared:
Just as wisdom covers the intellectual or comprehending side of our nature. Like wisdom, compassion is uniquely human quality. Compassion is made up of two words. ‘co’ meaning together and ‘passion’ meaning a strong feeling. And this is what compassion is. When we see someone is in distress and we feel their pain as if it were our own, and strive to eliminate or lessen their pain, then this is compassion. So all the best in human beings, all the Buddha-like qualities like sharing, readiness to give comfort, sympathy, concern and caring “all are manifestations of compassion”.
You will notice also that in the compassionate person, care and love towards others has its origins in care and love for oneself. We can really understand others when we really understand ourselves. We will know what’s best for others when we know what’s best for ourselves. We can feel for others when we feel for ourselves. So in Buddhism, ones own spiritual development blossoms quite naturally into concern for the welfare of others. The Buddha’s life illustrates this very well. He spent six years struggling for his own welfare, after which, he was able to be of benefit to the whole of mankind. – end of quoteaaOur compassion is what is called our “Buddha seed” or “Buddha nature”, our potential to become a Buddha our self’s. Essentially it is because all living beings carry this Buddha seed inside, that we have the capacity to become Enlightened. It is recommended to develop extend and deepen our compassion, through a regular meditation practice. When we do so – the repetitions transform us over time, into an expression of the universal mind of great compassion. But before we are truly ready to reach that state, we have to be in a place of SELF-COMPASSION.
So let’s take a look at the three most important steps toward authentic and effective self-compassion.

Mindfulness
Don’t replay mistakes in your head over and over again!! Don’t call yourself stupid or worthless!! Don’t use negative language against yourself at all!! Harsh self-criticism might be pretty common, but beating yourself up for your mistakes and punishing yourself for your failures does not actually help anybody. It just makes you mentally weaker and less capable of making the right decision for your next step. Try instead to be the observer of your negative emotions, without overly focusing on them or suppressing them. The same for mistakes and hurtful actions you saw on yourself. Which leads us to self-kindness.

Self-Kindness
Now as you are acting more like an observer than a judge of your situation, you can start exchanging harsh and demanding thoughts or words – for a more supportive and self-loving language. Worldwide studies show that treating yourself with kindness, is the best way to create a more authentic results for the next time. Self-compassion is in essence, the line that follows up from self-recognition to self-acceptance and following acts of self-improvement. So the next time you go a bit of the trail, embrace the confused and insecure person you might turn into!! Hold yourself tight and let yourself know, you got your back!! Promise yourself that you will do better already when the next chance comes along, and than make sure you keep your promise!!

Connectedness
When ever we are in a profoundly difficult situation, it helps us to acknowledge that our suffering and failure might not be as individual as it seams in the moment. Maybe it is rather an universal experience, that other human beings went trough before. By doing so we on one hand remind ourselves, that we are not alone in our pain – and on the other side – that others have overcome similar difficult situations before, so we can also develop the strength to do the same. Remember Jesus Christ sad that we could all do what he has done, and even more… well, lets go and proof him right on that on ;-)…
comI hope with this steps you feel inspired to add even more kindness and self-love to your everyday life behavior, and that you have lots of fun practicing self-compassion!! Don’t forget to think uplifting thoughts about yourself, when things are already ruff!! Keep breathing, smiling and hugging yourself!! Sending b
lessings and wish you much success increasing your self-compassion ;-)!
Love Edith

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