Collectively Moving On From Sexualization And Abuse

by Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
the other day I had a very interesting exchange with a friend, talking about a sentence I heard while watching a random television show. The protagonist in that reality TV show answered, when she was asked about her past as model for the Playboy Magazine, the following: “We are women! We have tits and a pussy, men are always going to sexualize us! That’s something we can’t get past!!” Honestly, the fact that she would express her observations as such radical truth truly shocked me.
But the current reality is, that f
or women in western society it has become a state of “daily normality” to be harassed, depressed or insulted on a sexual level. Currently we can see how on all levels of life, our youth is deeply effected by the porn-culture they are growing up in, and the resisting lack of authenticity as well as clarity in sexual relationships.

This is from the Article “Growing up in Pornland” by I meet girls who describe being groped in the school yard, girls routinely sexually harassed at school or on the school bus on the way home. They tell me boys act like they are entitled to girls’ bodies. Defenders of porn often say that it provides sex education. And it does: it teaches even very young boys that women and girls are always up for it. “No” in fact means yes, or persuade me.

The proliferation and globalization of hypersexualized imagery and pornographic themes makes healthy sexual exploration almost impossible. Sexual conquest and domination are untampered by the bounds of respect, intimacy and authentic human connection. Young people are not learning about intimacy, friendship and love, but about cruelty and humiliation.

So what is it we can do? One think we all can enforce together is to support women in growing into strong mothers. A masculine child does not only need the love of his mother, but also the firm hand that tells the son about boundaries and personal time for “mommy recovery”. To make it clear from the beginning on, that “mother” is apart from the provider for survival, also is a normal human being with personal needs.
Knowing that as a child, makes it easier for the adult man to accept a partners boundaries and personal desires too.

Talking to our son’s about the fact that every woman indeed has a personal way and need, how to express her own sexuality, and letting them know that it takes time to listen if one wants to discover a woman’s sexuality, also helps a lot to keep their minds open in the face of a collective over-sexualization.

And another thing we also can do now when we are women in this world, is open our mouth and share our stories. The time for silent suffering is over, the time of united healing has begun! Letting others know they are not alone and how we went through the same things they also have experienced, sets the healing even stronger into motion and shortens the time it collectively takes.This is a particularly beautiful poem which is expressing the profound pain passed on over the generations, and which has touched me deeply recently.

The poem came from the facebook page Source Medicine:
You no longer have to hold in your shame
Ancestral woman you can dance now
You no longer have to hide and stay still
Ancestral woman you can laugh now

Your laughter heals the tears of your daughters
Ancestral woman you can cry now
Cry and howl at the stars until your wounds blossom into flowers
Ancestral woman you can learn now

It’s not your fault as you let go of guilt, blame and shame
Ancestral woman you are of the Earth
You can work with herbs without persecution and death

Ancestral woman I am sorry you were a child bride
Ancestral woman I am sorry your children died
Ancestral woman I am sorry you were a slave
Ancestral woman I am sorry you were sold
Ancestral woman I am sorry you masked your pain

Ancestral woman torn by rape, war and homicide
Ancestral woman you are the woman of today
Ancestral woman and woman of today we are here to listen and learn

As we cleanse our bloodlines of persecution, fear and pain
No longer the womb of grief and devastation
Birthing and weaving the new Earth
in the womb of pleasure and creation

While this wonderful quote expressed where we wanna go on collective level:
I want to live in a society filled with people who are curious and concerned about each other rather than afraid of each other. I want to live in a world full of brave people who are willing to risk not only adventure but emotional intimacy. I want to live in a world full of explorers and generous souls rather than people who have voluntarily become prisoners of their own fortresses. I want to live in a world full of people who look into each other’s faces along the path of life and ask, “Who are you, my friend, and how can we serve each other”?
Elizabeth M. Gilbert                                             Picture Credit: Scream of The Silenced by Dave Fadden
Dear ones, we are living in a collectively intense time and that will go on for a couple of years longer, so stop holding back your authentic expression and rather go on to practice using your voice for the good of the bigger picture. We all have the responsibility to show up, if we truly want to manifest the Golden Age of Aquarius for all beings on planet earth over the coming decades.
Love and Blessings
Edith

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Sexuality, Shamanism and Community

aaaDear Friends,
I so very much enjoyed reading this article. It is lovely written and  provides downloads of authentic energy. In my daily experience as a human being on planet earth, who translates divine existence into human expression I feel blessed and happy to stand at  “ the point where polarities meet, between the ordinary and non-ordinary, day and night, life and death”. It is a good place to be. It is where life happens, where obstacles turn into opportunities and an old way of living can end, for the blessing of a new beginning :-)! Enjoy the article and may your powers return and your inner shaman guide you home!
Blessings, Love and Light! Edith

For ages on our planet conflicts around sex issues have been a major cause of sufferance, addiction and frustration. As we move into a path of rapid spiritual reawakening it is vital to acknowledge these wounds and strenuously promote ways to heal them. Shamanically each human being, no matter how conditioned or unaware, is an inherent part of the web of life. This means that together with their separated personality, they experience the interaction with a multidimensional identity, which is their true self. When more individuals join together with the intent of giving creative space to their true multidimensional nature, they amplify the access to the web of life and the unity of human consciousness, creating the conditions for radical healing shifts in human values.
The first step in the above respect entails fully acknowledging sexual conflicts, frustrations and grievances, allowing each party to express their feelings, without rushing a resolution of the issues themselves. This implies that transparency and the availability to release are the primary steps in healing, together with the capacity of translating sexual personal history into sexual collective history, which means thinking in terms of the global community, instead of our personality. From a multidimensional and shamanic perspective I regard sex as a symbolic representation of the energy pervading the web of life, often described as an ongoing multi-dimensional intercourse between the earth and the sky, the seen and the unseen.
Many healers and also ordinary, yet highly sensitive, people stand on the threshold of this copulation, right in the point where polarities meet, between the ordinary and non-ordinary, day and night, life and death. Whether they know it or not, they are intensely tied to the essence of creation, stirring up the energy and using it to sustain the web of life. They are involved in healing soul-fragmentation, which is the result of belief systems based on separation and the cause of all fears held in our culture. People who are aware of this healing process work at an archetypal or collective level, as opposed to the personal or self-centered levels most individuals operate from. As a result, they constantly move to different ways of perceiving and using sex energy. Due to the conventional denial and distortion of such themes, this can be unsettling for them and their relationships.astroshamanismWorking shamanic and multidimensional with sexual energy does not necessarily imply promiscuity or even having sexual intercourse. Due to its controversial implications many people on this path have firm boundaries around sex and even observe vows of abstinence. Multidimensional sex is not necessarily Tantra or Taoist eroticism, which involves conscious manipulation of sexual energy. It is based on the experience that ordinary love-making, sensuality and also mere sexual fantasies are potentially conducive to healing states of consciousness and to the emergence of multidimensional awareness. This is the experience of many common people, who out of the blue, without warning or predetermined intention, find themselves in expanded states of consciousness when having sexual experiences. They move into other worlds, accessing spaces of deep peace and ecstasy. And in doing so they forget about their partners, and may feel puzzled, ashamed and unable to share or understand their experience when they return. Sexual energy can be a sacred gateway leading beyond consensus reality, right into our core multidimensional identity. Sexual energy, when properly used, can shatter our separated perception of life, unveiling an ecstatic experience a billion times stronger than the most desirable orgasm.
This is why sex is so heavily manipulated, repressed and misunderstood. Yet here sex is not at all the taboo. The greatest taboo is the experience of ecstasy, the mystery of death, the release of our human separated reality and the unveiling of our multi-dimensional nature. Sexual interaction involves enormous exchanges of energy. Apart from the conscious reality of those who seem to be involved there is much more going on, which is what creates the energy. Most relevant forces are engaged in sexual activity, yet we miss their impact if sex is approached with lack of awareness. The sexual union provides a multi-dimensional evidence of unity, encompassing the physical, the emotional, the mental and the spiritual body. Since as human beings we officially identify ourselves only through our physical body, major issues often develop when individuals misunderstand their experiences or interrupt their relationships.
Acknowledgment and awareness regarding sex is a major step in shamanic healing. This is devoid of any interpretation or judgment. It is a witnessing process which also encompass our memories of sexual experiences by recapitulating them. The point here is not whether to have sex or not. It is being aware of what is truly happening behind the veil of sex, no matter how we experience it, getting out of glamour and prejudices, unconsciousness and denial.
Conscious use of sexual energy, whether through physical interaction, shamanic work or imagination, can be a fast track to the awakening of our multidimensional nature.wb051432

It can also provide inspiration, healing and luminous transformation for human communities and the planetary environment. As I move on the shamanic path and in daily life, a big part of the learning on the above comes from mistakes and frustrations. Yet deep within I know that as human beings we all share the same longing and dreams. Hence my determination and commitment grow, as I step out of isolation and become open to join other folks who share the same visions.

The Difference between Soul Loss and Dramatic Experience

11204973_10208158958714760_7817272964522624367_nby Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,

the other day I posted an article about the three most commune spiritual reasons for the creation of health issues. As a reaction, I received many letters with questions about what it really means to experience a so called “Soul Loss”. And some speculations where mentioned, that I could mean a simple dramatic experience. So allow me to clarify with more details and examples.
It is easy to confuse any dramatic experience and true soul loss… as soul loss is kind of the follow up creation of our internal separation of a dramatic impact, when it turns into a constant coping mechanism. You see, whenever we are dealing with the psychological aftermath of a really shocking experience, it is natural to temporarily separate from the part in us that suffers the most. But, when a traumatic life experiences is serious enough, it can go further and result in the fragmentation of our vital essence, a loss of pieces of our life force and potential.
And the picture is much more complex than we might think, as Soul loss also can appears as the result of an experience that is so personal, no one else could see the impact that creates the traumatic experience. This is especially often the case, when the trauma is a karmic repetition of events and people meeting.
When we are dealing with real Soul loss, we experience feelings of being completely fragmented, we have blocked memory, some are not able to remember years of their life, have suicidal tendencies, struggle with addictions, the complex to be unworthy of being loved or long periods of depression.grSo allow me to share two examples from my work experience, for even more clarity:
About a year ago a man came to me, asking for assistance in his healing process. At that time you could categorize him as a 64year old man, from a western culture, highly educated, with an negative respond on his lips – to just about everything you could possible ask him and a grayish, dark Aura field. He told me about a massive car accident that he was involved in, about ten years ago. In this car crash he suffered such a major head injury , that he was in a coma for 2 weeks and had half a year recovery time to work true after.
When he came to me, he still suffered from regular blackouts, mental disorientation, problems to hold his concentration and physical instabilities when walking. He told me he had a vision once, that he was supposed to live a life of 84years, but there was no passion for life inside him.
After 3 days of mental, physical and emotional preparation, we approached his problem in a sacred ceremony – with the support of sacred plant medicine. During his Shamanic Journey he had the chance to experience the emotional impact of that night one more time. A courtesy of the sacred medicine to evoke healing and re-connection with the true essence of our higher-self; pure, blissful dancing light.
But that is not what happened…. because he had experienced this trauma as so profoundly life threatening, and had spend years and years of going back in his memory, remembering all the bad over and over again.. he nearly left…. what that means… three times during the ceremony, I was advised by his spirit guides and the Ascended Masters to call his soul back into the room and into his physical body – with the guiding songs of the medicine.
If I would not have followed this advice, he could have lost even more particles of his conscious awareness, to the emotional and energetic memory of the event. Or the energetic impact of the ceremony could have increased his negativity to a degree, that would have allowed him to manifest a physical illness – and terminate his life before it is his time (in 20years). This is thru Soul Loss…
Good news, my friend was back here already this year – for more shifting and changing of his mindset! He is strongly present, you can feel him in his body when you hug him, he walks without insecurity, he is friendly and writes songs about his eternal divine love potential. I am so proud of him for doing such an amazing job of self-healing!!20My second example is an Indigo Child,  a beautiful, powerful and magical woman, an amazon and true spiritual warrior. She is caring the power inside of her, to clear and transform thousands of years of feminine abuse for the collective human ascension.
But first things first.. when we met, she shared her story with me. A story of physical-, mental-, emotional and sexual abuse, by both of her parents. An abuse that started as early as with her 3rd life year and ended only when she took the first way out, when she turned 16. Again we approached with a healing ceremony and the following unveiled.
In order to cope with her horrendous experience, she had dissociated herself from particles of her true soul – as a natural reaction of her survival instinct. But because the massive abuse went on for many years, there was a point where she forgot that this original and whole center in her once existed. Indeed her separation was so profound, that she even thought of her own true-self’s memories as an entity –a completely externally existing being – trying to attack her mentally and push her to changes she feared. Because she did such an excellent job in her mental preparation, her physical process of release and internal shifting went on for weeks after our work together. She fund the strength to accept the entity as her own origin and reintegrate the former separated parts of her soul.
And by now, she is rocking the boat by giving lectures for women at shamanic tantric meetings! I read a beautiful article about the vulnerable power and beauty of being feminine and every picture I see of her, shows her beautifully shining inner light in her eyes.

Now, if this lines resonate with you in a way, that you feel like you actually experienced such a Soul Loss – start your journey of reintegration today!! To do so, we need to balance our internal forces (masculinity, femininity, divinity and humanity), find authentic expression for our feelings and live in general a truthful life.
Bless you and send Angels and Masters on your path of reintegration to wholeness!!
Edith

Why not to take Ayahuasca?

Sanango , Izabal, Guatemala

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Thank you so much hermano Sanango from the Sinchi Runa Center in Izabal, for this beautiful article. I totally agree with him on the need for a good preparation, a deep personal understanding of the process, a good mental and physical health state and lots and lots of transparency in the communication with the facilitator/assistant. Each of this parts are important for the success of a session. For the integration I watched the following: with every day you spend in a loving self-embrace; with smoothing, self-love evoking, balancing and harmonizing music; breathing deeply and consciously, while planting seeds of positive thought pattern – the deeper roots of your past (this and every other life on the spiral dance of creation), your destructive pattern and emotional body, the medicine can reach and shift in vibration. This can go on for days and days after the ceremonial encounter – totally depending on your invested degree of awareness, attention, devotion, surrender and passion. REMEMEBER – we talk about engaging in a relationship with a spirit!
I saw similarity in our few about finding the right helper match, which made me smile. I believe in guidance and the good of obeying the free will! So for me it is: 1st let the medicine call you! Feel a pull – in best case more than one’s – feel attracted, sense passion that comes from within, sense nervousness similar to stage fright….All of this are excellent signs of a “call” from your spirit guides. As next step, you can take full responsibility for yourself by clearing deep inside, what you might need in your servant. From there you are well equipped, to choose – from the heart – your work partner for the process. As a last step: with your feet on the ground, make a leap of faith, trust your choice of person and trust the process! 🙂
I found myself laughing out loud, when he calls the Ayahuasca a “des hallucinatory substance” :-).. AHO – I soooo agree!! The nice colors, the geometries and sounds are lovely and amazing also very good for the emotional body – as they are of high vibration and can fill up our “feel good account”. But they are barely a blue print of each individuals soul potential . A blueprint that wants to be manifested into our materialized world – in the alchemical wedding of your spirit in human action. The deep healing, the creational existence of self, the endlessness, we find in the layers beyond.
Isn’t it funny, that even the physical body in compressed form proves to contain 99% emptiness :-)…

Love and Blessings
Edith

There are many indications against taking ayahuasca. At the physical level, the most important is a major cardiovascular disorder. Problems could be caused not so much through the biochemical action of the brew, but through the stress caused by the intense work or circumstance that might come with the session. An ayahuasca session is a great opportunity, but demands a lot of mental and physical strength, for which it is important to have a history free of cardiovascular complications.

At the mental level, there are individuals with serious emotional problems that may hinder the dynamic of the session. These emotional problems can be expressed in daily life by uncontrollable impulses, states of explosive anger or deep states of loss of control. If the participant suffers from so-called black outs or have been diagnosed with a psychiatric mental disorder, a prior personal consultation is needed before the session to evaluate the inner state.

Moreover, there are situations such as addictions or consumption of psychiatric drugs to take into account. If the participant is using any kind of substance, it is very important to have a prior detoxification period. This is preferably done in the center that will realize the ayahuasca session. The use of substances such as cocaine or dopamine stimulants requires a detox period that can vary from 15 to 30 days before the intake of the plant. If the participant discards this indication and wishes to attend a session without disclosing data regarding these issues, it signifies a lack of understanding. Such a participant does not realize the type of medicine that ayahuasca is and will not be ready to participate in a session.

The attitude of the participant seeking their own search for truth, trust, transparency towards himself and to the process, is the most important thing in front of an ayahuasca session or any kind of spiritually based healing.
If the participant is not clear of what type of process he is approaching and has information based only through the impact of online videos, seeking a psychedelic experience or only expecting to receive lights and colorful shapes that can cause great excitement. If the expectation is a spectacular trip or a magic potion, the participant should not drink ayahuasca.

It is important to understand that the mission and spirit of ayahuasca is to heal through comprehension. The great opportunity of humanity with this entheogen is to surpass the barrier of the mind and go beyond the illusion of the state of alertness to obtain wisdom of the universe.
Ayahuasca is not an hallucinogen, is a des hallucinatory substance. Ayahuasca is a portal to the essence of humanity, a portal where memories of the species can be opened. This opening can bring understanding of the higher self and the purpose of each one, not only as an individual, but as humanity. Ayahuasca is a chance to heal the soul and reach the truth that lives within each one.

It is very important that the guide is honest and truthful. Do not take ayahuasca with guides who have new age speeches or messianic ideas. Make sure that the guide or facilitator is not improvising and that has really done a deep work of personal comprehension or a discipular spiritual path. It is advisable to analyze the ethical level of the guide or facilitator, the profusion of “shamans”, “avatars”, “guardians of the medicine” and other bizarre characters is something to avoid when choosing where and with whom to take ayahuasca. An apparent native guide or facilitator does not guarantee anything. Not be swayed by prejudice or pre concepts, neither believe in “shamans”, “natives”, who lives in cities or that are characters full of names or egotistical self-imposed titles.

If you have financial constraints, it is best to wait to fix them. Never make a decision based on finding the cheapest option. Do not trust sessions that only ask for a “collaboration” or are “free”, these are usually desperate acts of the guide or facilitator and is generally a lack of transparency. It is recommended to not do sessions carried out in cities or proceeding from them, in which the guide or facilitator is a multi-task professional.

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A genuine ayahuasca ceremony requires a prior preparation, a purge and a preliminary assessment. It is recommended that ayahuasca sessions be done preferably in a center in the jungle or in the countryside where the participant can disconnect from the everyday world. It is recommended to rest after the experience and make the space to take it seriously.
If the participant has a big schedule which is more important compared to the healing process and the session is one of the many experiences of the itinerary, the participant definitely should not take ayahuasca.

The participant must make a careful choice, free of cultural preconceptions, making the proper space and having the respect it deserves. If the previous points are not taken into account, one should not take Ayahuasca.
The best practice to decide where and with whom to do a session is to listen to one’s heart. It is easy to see who is real or not, this is very important when making this decision.

The participant has a decision to make this experience a chance of understanding something far beyond anything imagined. It’s the opportunity to open the heart, mind and being to the universe. The session is an opportunity to heal and be healed through the compassion of the universe. If the participant reaches humility and pureness of heart, it may understand the most important thing of their existence.

Source: http://ayahuascaguatemala.com/existen-varias-contraindicaciones-para-evitar-tomar-ayahuasca.html