The Spiritual Influence The Upcoming Scorpio New Moon Is Providing

by Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
on Wednesday November 7th we are collectively experiencing the influence of this years New Moon in Scorpio and that means its time for all of us to dig deep for glues on higher grounds. The New Moon appears in the fixed water sign at this time in the positioning of 15 degrees and 11 minutes, bringing along a lot of profound teachings for all beings on planet earth. 

Passion is a very big theme for us during the influence of this New Moon’s energy. While this impact can express in very beautiful passionate encounter between men and women, even in one or the other revival of a heated relationship from the past, it can also express in feeling triggered to the core of our childhood dramas in relation to passionate emotions of all sorts. Be aware and well prepared my friends, so you can respond to such healing moments with a conscious mind.

A very deep collective theme on the planet right now, which also will move the masses during this Moon phase, in order to lead us deeper into our united awakening process into the Golden Age of Aquarius, is the area of addictions, obsessions and other self harming behavior pattern. Inner awareness can rather suddenly rise within us right now, transforming the way we understood our own actions so far.

I would rather go through life sober, believing I am an alcoholic, than go through life drunk, trying to convince myself that I am not.
Unknown

Recovery didn’t open the gates of heaven and let me in. Recovery opened the gates of hell and let me out!
Unknown

You don’t get over an addiction by stopping using. You recover by creating a new life where it’s easier to not use. If you don’t create a new life, then all the factors that brought you to your addiction will catch up with you gain.
The First Rule of Recovery

It’s not that some people have willpower and some don’t. It’s that some people are ready to change and others are not.
James GordonOver all the energy field right now is providing us with a big opportunity to break free from the chains of an old habit and feeds us with new layers of understand how exactly we have been part of creating this obstacles into our life.

Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have.
Dale Carnegie

Habits are formed by the repetition of particular acts. They are strengthened by an increase in the number of repeated acts. Habits are also weakened or broken, and contrary habits are formed by the repetition of contrary acts.
Mortimer Adler

I learned to be with myself rather than avoiding myself with limiting habits; I started to be aware of my feelings more, rather than numb them.
Judith Wright

It is a great moment on planet earth to go for a really big move in life. That could be physical and turn out as a trip into so far unknown territories, it could be a big move in our emotional body or in our mindset. How ever it shows up in daily life, what inspires us collectively these days is the perspective of adventures, of opening new horizons for ourselves and others and the desire of playfully bringing brand new innovations into life.

To look beyond our horizons is to acknowledge that we’ve hemmed ourselves in by creating them in the first place.
Craig D. Lounsbrough

It’s interesting how we can connect so deeply with friends so different from ourselves. In fact, perhaps it’s these differences ultimately bonding us the most. The opportunity to expand our horizons.
Brownell Landrum

The very basic core of a man’s living spirit is his passion for adventure. The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.
Christopher McCandless

Watching the infinite horizons gives you infinite dreams, infinite ideas, infinite paths! Choose a great target and then you will see that great instruments will appear for you to reach that target!
Mehmet Murat ildan
Dear Ones, I hope you are feeling inspired and motivated right now, that you know yourself well enough to be aware of the themes that can come up for you these days, and that you have strong personal tools to meet the challenges. May you all be blessed with profound insides and lots of passion to jump into transformation!
Love & New Moon Blessings!
Edith

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The Spiritual Influence The Full Moon In Taurus Will Bring

by Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
if you thought that the Virgo New Moon which blessed us on the 8th of this month with strong downloads had a powerful influence on your life, than buckle up for the upcoming Full Moon in Taurus from October 24th or 25th. The stellar event will occur at 1 degree and 13 minutes of the earth zodiac sign, and it will be moving with a massively strong energy field. Be aware my friends and make sure to be prepared, so you can meet the energies from a centered inner place.

The first thing to mention is that it is massively important for us to make sure that we all take especially good care of our inner connection these days. Choose what ever practice you enjoy, but make sure to do as much meditation, breath work yoga or other centering activity as possible. Self-care is crucial these days and will make a big difference in how we experience this cosmic influence.

By cultivating the beautiful we scatter the seeds of heavenly flowers, as by doing good we cultivate those that belong to humanity.
Vernon Howard

Nurturing a feeling makes it proliferate. Choose wisely. Joy, kindness, love, & caring will illuminate your life.
Amy Leigh Mercree

Embrace, nurture, love and celebrate the child in self and others; because being child is being a future.
Vishwas Chavan

Go within every day and find the inner strength, so the world will not blow your candle out.
Katherine Dunham

The energy field of this Taurus Full Moon provides us with the possibility to look into the deepest insides of how we have build our most limiting believe systems, and with it comes also the inner strength to make a shift. When we are wise and evaluate our situation with an honest heart and full of faith, than long existing pattern within us can finally move into transformation, in order to bring forward a more authentic approach to our individual lives.

You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.
Marcus AureliusTake chances, make mistakes. That’s how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave.
Mary Tyler Moore

The best way to gain self-confidence is to do what you are afraid to do.
unknown

During these days we are not only dealing with the qualities of the Taurus Full Moon alone, but also with the fact that many stars are in fixed signs. A great challenge you could give yourself under the influence of this powerful Taurus Full Moon, is to choose one action that you are very used to do in “your way” – maybe even run on autopilot usually – and consciously approach it in a new way. Watch yourself in that process and see if your mind is going crazy over breaking the routine. There is much to be gained when we simply choose to change what we are used to for a brand new approach.

Last but not least I want to mention the physical and emotional aspect of this Full Moon in Taurus. Our senses will be strongly heightened and physical sensations even more nurturing to us than in other times. If it is a hot bath, a lovely massage, really good food or simple touching your pet more than usual, what ever makes you feel good and alive is a good idea during these days.

Our emotions affect the atmosphere around us, and other people, because emotions influence the electromagnetic field our heart emits.
Sam Owen

The world could be a little less cruel, if we nurture each other while we grow; learn understanding while we transform and maintain a humble attitude whilst we succeed.
Nikki Rowe

Think the tree that bears nutrition:
though the fruits are picked,
the plant maintains fruition.
So give all the love you have.
Do not hold any in reserve.
What is given is not lost;
it shall return.
Kamand Kojouri
Dear Ones, I hope you are deeply in touch with your emotions these days and feel the delicious Taurus Full Moon energy field like a nurturing spring. Take your chance these days, release yourself from many old pattern and allow your authentic expression to step forward in all kinds of art forms. 
Love and Full Moon Blessings!
Edith

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Helping Ourselves To More “I AM Light” With Ascended Master Support

by Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
the last few weeks have been intensively fired up by the traditional characteristics of the zodiac sign Leo. Massive planetary energy downloads have been transmitted from the Planetary New Year in July, till the Lion’s Gate opening which will close tomorrow on August 12th 2017; and strongly effects the collective emotional body of humanity.
The Lions Gate is a yearly occurring chance for us, to get in touch with the
planetary master teachings and the wisdom of the blue planet Sirius. This light codes of higher vibration, are now working on the DNA strands of our physical bodies, to translate themselves into manifested reality. The guidance, information and assistance we desire in this moment, is already within us. Prayer is one way to support ourselves within the process, and to consciously gain excess to the deeper meaning of this messages for the divine plan of the Golden Age of Aquarius.

Find here four particularly helpful prayers:
Immaculate Plan Prayer

Replace every destructive behavior pattern with goodness,
honor, reverence and respect for the divinity within every child of god
unto the full manifest expression of God within every soul.

To this end I offer myself as a Holy Grail
through which the Light of Creation will flow
to fulfill the Immaculate Concept of the Divine Plan.

The Great Maitreya Prayer
From the source of Light, the Mind of Divinity,
let light stream down into the minds of humanity,
let it be light on Earth.

From the source of Love, the Heart of Divinity,
let love stream down into the hearts of humanity,
may the Christ Light return to Earth.

From the source of all, the Will of Divinity,
let purpose be the guide of the small minded wills of humanity,
to the same purpose, that the Masters knowingly serve.From the source, which we call human kind,
let the plan of unconditional love and inner light unfold,
and may it seal the doors to where evil dwells.

May Light, Unconditional Love and the Divine Powers,
restore the Divine Plan on Planet Earth!!

Lord Lanto Prayer
Love the golden hope of your divinity more than your current reality,
then there is hope!!
Eventually this hope is not true anymore, because it became your truth.

The golden light of God comes to establish peace and wisdom!
Through the temple of revelation and divine peace,
the light of God manifest once again on the earth plane.

Open Up, turn into a barer of divine faith and truth!
Allow the stream of light to flow through you!
Aligned with the great plan of The Eternal One!
Your reward is immense inner wealth
and your awakening into divinity!

A Prayer for Closure
Great Spirit, we send thanks to you for your assistance and guidance.
We thank you for the love and positive light we shared today
and ask that the energies be brought to closure at the right time.

We ask for your continued protection as we move through our daily life,
and pray we have the energy and higher will,
to spread light and love with those we touch.

In return we give our thanks and gratitude,
our love and positive light for the universal good of all.
Blessings be with us.Dear Ones, I hope that the past Leo New Moon and the Lions Gate opening have brought a healthy portion of burning passion for life to your personal experience. I hope you are committed and motivated to bring your authentically shining light into the world, and share it with us all in a united brotherhood of man.
Love and Blessings!
Edith

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Spirituality, Money, Abundance & The Golden Age Paradigm

aby Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
in my post from yesterday I mentioned how this amazing Capricorn New Moon and the incredible cleansing of the first chacra that we collectively have experienced last month, are deeply relate to another. This clearing in the physical body of all human beings, has enabled us to take a deep look at our behavior pattern, fears, belief systems and soul desires about personal abundance, money and finances. The past year vibrated with the energetic divine blueprint for power and abundance. The chance to understand and shift dynamics relate to the abusive side of our personal and collective use of this medium.
And this year is inviting us to align our collective behavior with the natural ethics and wisdom we have gained so far. The collective awakening process leads us to evaluate again what we think and feel about abundance in our life, how we earn our money and how we feel about sharing with others. More and more people will be able to see behind the scenes and use the abundance they have, in order to support their thru desires and spend their money on inner growth and personal evolution. This will create an even quicker awakening wave for the rest of the collective.

Here are some of the most beautiful quotes on money and abundance that fit the understanding for the new paradigm we develop:
1.) A kind man who makes good use of wealth is rightly said to possess a great treasure but the miser who hoards up his riches will have no profit.  Guatama Buddha
2.)
It is not the man who has too little, but the man who craves more, that is poor. Seneca
3.) Money is only a tool. It will take you wherever you wish, but it will not replace you as the driver. Ayn Rand
m4.)
Not he who has much is rich, but he who gives much. Erich Fromm
5.)
Live simply. Only own that which you need and perhaps a few little things for your personal enjoyment. Fundamentally, own only what you truly need and there will be no confusion, and you will not have to work too hard for money. Give money to support those things that inspire you. They require support, and you need to support them to experience your relationship with them. Living the Way of Knowledge
6.)
That man is richest whose pleasures are cheapest. Henry David Thoreau
7.) I don’t pay good wages because I have a lot of money; I have a lot of money because I pay good wages. Robert Bosch
8.)
Money is like love; it kills slowly and painfully the one who withholds it, and enlivens the other who turns it on his fellow man. Kahlil Gibran
9.) It is not the man who has too little, but the man who craves more, that is poor. Unknown
10.)
Capital as such is not evil; it is its wrong use that is evil. Capital in some form or other will always be needed. Gandhi
11.)
Money is good for nothing unless you know the value of it by experience. P.T Barnum
12.) Remember, money is here to serve. You do not want to serve it. Money is a resource to be employed. It is here to serve. You do not want to become its servant. What does money serve for you? How do you use money? Living the Way of Knowledge
13.)
Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort. Franklin D. Roosevelt
14.)
It’s good to have money and the things that money can buy, but it’s good, too, to check up once in a while and make sure that you haven’t lost the things that money can’t buy. George Lorimer
u15.)
The power of force, the power of wealth, the attractions of beauty and charm ultimately cannot compete or compare with God’s Power and Presence. The Power of God in the World
16.) You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead, pursue the things you love doing, and then do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off you. Maya Angelou
17.) Don’t tell me where your priorities are. Show me how you spend your money and I’ll tell you what they are. James W. Frick
18.)
Give money to support all those things that inspire you and make your heart sing. Unknown
19.)
If money is your hope for independence you will never have it. The only real security that a man will have in this world is a reserve of knowledge, experience, and ability. Henry Ford
20.)
Don’t think money does everything or you are going to end up doing everything for money. Voltaire

Dear Ones I hope you feel inspired, empowered and over all deeply encouraged by this amazing Moon energies. May you be able to day by day leave a bit more of the old ways behind and create an opening for this brand new collective approach to money, abundance and sharing we are about to create now!!!
Love & Abundance!
Edith

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New Paradigms for Leadership, Family Living & Community Building Emerge

posby Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
we are approaching a period in the development of human kind, where relationships are ready to go through a major transformation. Daily more people realize that the current paradigm of being with each other, does not really work for human beings and needs to be adapted to the time we are living in. The divine forces have blessed us with intense light impulses during the whole month of December last year. A part of the collective impact we experienced is the cleansing of the human energy field from the thinking and behavior pattern of the first chakra.
This upgrade in frequency in the physical body of all beings on the planet, has an impact on how we experience love relationships, sexuality, territorial behavior, family or tribal bounds, and leadership.

In the new paradigm for romantic relationships, we will see more and more people choose their partner rather from a sense of purpose, inner guidance and soul connection, than practical reasons or pure sexual attraction. And when people decide to be together because they can feel a mutual soul contract, than the relationship is allowed to naturally strive rather than “function”. When the beings involved in a relationship are also individually committed truth seeker, than the partnership becomes a journey of evolution with endless potential for growth. And as human beings we need the feeling of inner growth, otherwise we loose the sense for fulfilling our soul’s purpose. This shift of awareness to the soul level of our connections, lifts us to a place where cooperation and collaboration are experienced as equally shared in responsibility and created from a place of ease.pTogether with this changes a relaxation settles into the interactions between the sexes, which leads us to more authentic and truthful communication. In the partners loving presence, we train to reveal our secrets in a profound emotional openness and a transformed feeling of solidarity. Within the new relationship paradigm, we also will see more couples who value growth more than anything else. And the ones who are wise, strive towards spiritual expansion, even at the risk of outgrowing the relationship within the process. That might be scary in times, but it also maintains a natural feeling of aliveness, freedom and loving energy-flow between the relationship partners.
Within the new paradigm for community living , clan members meet by soul calling, for the mutual reason of consciously supporting each others evolution process (and often as well the collective awakening). Everybody is committed to allow authentic expression, even if that means to be triggered in their beliefs systems. As we start building this conscious communities according to the divine blueprint for the Golden Age of Aquarius, we will see more and more guideline models arise, that include techniques from our ancestors in their toolbox.
From the talking circle to the conflict solving group meeting, from the healing tent to the transformation ritual, everyone is celebrating a comeback!! In growing groups of cultural expressions, like the so called “New Hippie Movement”, we can see the first alive models at work. And as our current society is a product of human concepts, not of divine will in this moment of time, it is on us to make all necessary steps for this alignments now. When the groups sharing also include the spiritual practices of total acceptance, being present with another, instant forgiveness and a commitment for allowing vulnerability, their communities will have the vibrations and feeling of a Sacred Space. A home where every member feels safe, welcome and appreciated to SIMPLE BE.po

And leadership, well that is shifting in peoples heads as well. When I was a child, impressive people in leading positions, pretty much scared the living daylight out of me. They where simple unapproachable!!  No warm feelings, no openness, there was nothing that mad me feel safe within the energy field they where radiating. Well, the natural born leader our collective awakening is now inviting to step up, will be human beings with the soul capacity to do a better job. A leader the awakening masses will identify as real now, is a being who naturally knows how to put the ego aside and truly care for others. Their communication skills will include the awareness, transparency and honesty, that are required to create an authentic relationship with others. Traits we should demand from our future authority figures like Politicians, Teacher, Doctors and Police officer!
A true leader also has to be able to co-operate and create with others on an energetically honest level, and with the focus on a win win situation. Doing so allows them to develop the ability to let others shine, without feeling threatened or attacked by their abilities. Anad a natural leader knows when to step in and give the collective a direction, and when to step back and let others do their part.

Dear Ones, i hope this little collection of insides has brought joy to your heart about the expected changes, maybe vibrated with some of the desires you are also caring in your soul, and invited you to even more spiritual growth in this magical year 2016. May the guidance of your higher-self sound loud and clear in your ear ;-), and lead you to the fulfillment of all of your hopes and dreams for community living, love relations and future leadership, that we actually can trust! I wish you inner peace and send blessings of love!
Edith

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Shifting an Angry World into a Paradigm of Inner Peace & Authentic Action

kkby Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
this years amazing frequencies for the collective awakening of humanity, are on a run. The effects have kicked in quite immediately the clock all over the was shifting to the 1.1.2016, and of we went with the wind of change into the new paradigm of peaceful living, harmonious community building and wise decision making when it comes to our future creations and co-creation partners. In my post about the collective cleansing of the first chakra, I mentioned that anger and frustration are two of the feelings that will more and more change for us. The intensity of how some of us have experienced the impact of this emotions, is daily fading more and a chance arises to transform our old behavior pattern to more fitting expressions for the Golden Age.
In general anger is a big one to transform, as or body supports with full force, the idea to move forward with this feeling. When we get angry, the amygdala of the brain (the part that deals with emotion) is going crazy. That makes our physical bodies reaction kick in and it wants to do something about the situation – IMMEDIATELY. Within a blink of an eye, the adrenal glands flood the body with stress hormones, such as adrenaline, noradrenaline, and cortisolour, the blood flow increases, feelings of excitement and anxiety arise and your muscles get activated.
Our Anger sets of the natural ‘fight or flight response’ of in the body, we gear up strength to survive a wrong that’s been perpetrated against you. The brain shoots blood into our muscles, in preparation for a physical confrontation. And most importantly – the mind is sharpened and focused within the second!!!! Most important, because this is the split second that also allows us to STEP BACK and evaluate the moment!!! According to well documented scientific research, the neurological response to anger actually lasts less than two seconds. This is why many people picked up on the idea of counting to 10 when angry!!!1aAnd lets be clear on one thing, I don’t think that anger is wrong – or a feeling we ‘should not have’, indeed anger is part of life within a physical body. The naturally build in physical cues of anger alert us, that something needs to be done as the situation we are in, is unhealthy, harmful or deforming for our true self. The thing is just, that we are now inspired to manifest the Golden Age of Aquarius, and the way how we choose to express our anger – is from now on, key to leading the collective of humanity into mass awakening; the level of increase we achieve in our collective ability for problem solving; and on a spiritual level that means, everybody is even more responsible now, to deal with what ever anger issues are left in their system, till this world is ready to live in balance, harmony and a state of world peace!!! Already ~Marcus Aurelius, The Roman Emperor (26 April 121 – 17 March 180 AD) shared a similar few of us human beings and this world, by understanding the whole Universe as a single living being:

“Never forget that the universe is a single living organism possessed of one substance and one soul, holding all things suspended in a single consciousness and creating all things with a single purpose that they might work together spinning and weaving and knotting whatever comes to pass.”

We are still supposed to stand up and tell our offenders that the behavior they showed is inappropriate, incorrect or injustice in our eyes, in some cases even more than ever (governments, our food industry, the pharmaceutical industry, the animal rights, human rights), and we are invited to a new paradigm of communication. A time of honest expression, from a place of openness and vulnerability, that truly allows us to engage with another (even in situations of deep disagreement!!) and actively supports the union in all our human relationships and communities.huge.9.45562Many of you, who read my blog on a regular basis, are Indigo Children, Crystal Children, Empathic People or Highly Sensitive People, that is one of the reasons why you feel attracted to my work. What all of this people have in common is that they are naturally taking in all the problems in the world, which than can create a strong sense of injustice, frustration, anger and even resignation in them, as this are all feelings we are inhaling from a human collective of 7 billion people. And some of us are even called to fulfill their soul path that way. To rise above the impact, in order to be part of the conscious awakening team ;-). There is nothing in the world that can not be forgiven! In history many have walked that path before us, marking the way we now are called to journey together.

“Yes, I was angry. And I was a little afraid. After all I’ve not been free in so long. But, when I felt that anger well up inside of me, I realized that if I hated them after I got outside that gate, then they would still have me! But I wanted to be free, so I let it go.” ~Nelson Mandela upon leaving prison after 27 years of confinement!!

Are you still sure the injustice done to you today is big enough, that you have THE RIGHT for a reaction of fiery anger, rage explosions or even treats / actions of physical violence? In case you hear an inner “YES” than it might be time to check your privileges in life and get on the peace train!! And for all of you who feel they are part of the peace movement already, CONGRATULATIONS… it will get a hell lot easier in the coming month.a2Dear Ones to close the circle, allow me to tell you that I am not sharing this tips and insides coming from an easy life and always been happy. I was angry!! Oh dear was I angry!! And in the last two days about twenty things happened, that some weeks ago would still have triggered something. But today in the morning, I just could not get angry anymore. I could feel this old me, still there in a corner of my body and somehow wanting to keep going the old way, and at the same time my body failed in it’s ‘fight or flight’ respond, so the fire did not go on. May this share bring you hope on your way to deeply peaceful manifestations, may you have others to play with and most of all, may you be free by heart!!!
Peace Hugs and Love!
Edith

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How to create long-lasting relationships – The scientific proof from the Gottman’s!!

aDear Soul Union Seeker, True-Lover and Hopeful!
Have you ever heard of John Gottman and his wife Julie?? Well in case not, he is a big relationship and sexuality guru who actually revolutionized our common understanding of the human body, the physical activity during the feminine orgasm (he proofed that it is a powerful force of nature, that unfolds in an internal process – extremely personal and collective at the same time “like every beautiful, divine paradox ;-)”) and the core values, that build lasting love partnerships.
The Gottman’s became famous in the 60es for a study on sexuality that enabled John Gottman to predict if newlyweds would make it as a couple, within spending less than an hour  with the two people. The American TV-Show hit “Masters of Sex – Love and Relationship” is based on this work. Totally enjoyable and recommendable show!! He currently released another study, that he developed with his wife, psychologist Julie Gottman. A study that might just have the answer to our many lifetime long quest of asking: WHAT MAKES LOVE LAST?

And despite of all our internal complexity, soul searching, psychological studies and romantic ideas, the answer is quite simple. All it takes is a truthful exchange of kindness and, what the Gottman’s called, “regular positive respond in our interactions”.
What that means is simple enough explained:
Let’s say you are at home in your living-room – your partner is present doing his tings. You are looking out of the window and see an amazingly beautiful sunset rising on the horizon. Filled with bliss, gratitude and good vibrations, you turn to your partner and say “have you seen this magnificent colors, the beauty is breath taking, nearly overwhelming!!” The Gottman’s called this a “bid”, which is a request for a response – in the hope of a small connection between the two of you. A connection that allows you to feel, that on this particular topic – you share the same worldview, values or perception.
But a bit is not only a request, but also an invitation for the partner – an invitation for another moment of shared intimacy. Your partner now has the choice, how to respond to this request for his time and attention.
Your partner can choose to look up and say “wow! You are right! This is amazing! Glad you pointed it out!” or what ever words of agreement, recognition, positive respond. The Gottman’s named this moment “turning toward” – indicating, that in such a moment the natural respond of the physical body is, to turn toward the object you respond too.a2Or, he can choose to stay engaged in what ever he is doing. Just mutter something, to let you know he heard that you where talking at all. Or worse of all, remain silent and unresponsive. That is something we internally experience as “turning away”.
Now that might not seam that important or significant, to destroy a true love relationship – but it indeed is? According to the results of the Gottman study, the consequences are spreading deep into the roots of our relationship foundation.
In fact it shows that:
Couples who got divorced within the time span of their six-year follow up, had “turn-toward bids” of 33 percent. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” of 87 percent. You don’t have to have studied the field to understand, that when your bids for connection rarely find responds, there comes a point where you stop trying.
The study explained it this way:
“People who give their partner the cold shoulder – deliberately ignoring the partner or responding minimally… not only kill the love in the relationship, but they also kill their partner’s ability to fight off viruses and cancers.” Contemplate that one!!
Clearly the most difficult situation to turn toward a bid, is when we experience stress, are in an argument or a heated discussion. AND especially in this moments of your relationship, it is most important to do exactly that. By developing the ability to hold space for your partner, you’re flexing your muscle of kindness – and kindness is the major predictor of a long-lasting relationship.

But, kindness is not the only ingredient in the pot. The second predictor of a long lasting love relation is the sharing of joy. In particular the  joy you feel over each others triumphs, accomplishments and gains. To feel happiness, support and even pride for the partners win’s in life, creates the space needed to keep being brave and courageous with our life-path decisions.
The Gottmans discoveries are based on over four decades of scientific research. The intent was not to look for evidence of different needs or behavior pattern between the sexes, but to get data about the nature of human beings in relationships.
Therefor the results are as relevant for the creation of long lasting love-relationships, as they are for your behavior with  family members, in friendships, work-relations and so on… They concern MAN and WOMAN EQUALLY!!
In essence our human existence on this beautiful planet is not possible without interaction with others… therefor, everything in our life is about relationship!!
a1So, pep up your behavior!! See if you can find it within you, to truly engage with your partner. Develop the clarity it takes, to truly be present in all your human interactions and don’t zoom out, like described in yesterdays post “Learn to feel your woman (or you will probably loose her)“.
And if it should be that you are one of the blessed souls, who came to reunite with a soul flame, a twin flame or longtime soul partner, know that every fiber of their being will be wired to “WANTING TO RESPOND” to you. When you meet people who belong to your soul tribe or soul family, you will experience a beautiful ping-pong game of BEING TOGETHER – where non of the players ever get tired of being engaged in interaction with the others.
I wish you awareness and devotion in the creation of our developing  New World relationships!!!
Blessings and Love
Edith

More theme relate articles you find here: Spiritual Awakening, Learn to be masters of loveLearn how to feel your woman, Wild Woman, Choose her every day (or leave her).

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