Within the New Relationship Paradigm – Our Sexuality Is Secret!

saby Edith Boyer-Telmer

Dear Friends,
in the last couple of month a lot of my clients expressed a newly discover need, to evaluate their personal expression of their sexuality and other physical desires. This is a natural side effect of the human collectives inner changes towards our new relationship paradigms, the balancing of the divine masculine and the divine feminine energies and the grounding of this harmony into everyday life. It seams like we are really close to the completed picture, as many feel their sexuality seams to be some kind of paradox… Something people really feel driven now, to talk about… and at the same time feel like it should be so natural and easy, there is nothing to talk about…
The beauty of this moment is, that a paradox in itself is ONENESS! It represents the two poles of the circle… just like masculine and feminine are. And while they are poles on the circle of life, they are also one within this circle.
In relation to our sexuality that means, that the bigger picture is not either or but as well as. We should feel naturally drown to each other by heart and physical attraction. Should as naturally come together as possible, in purity of sharing our true being with each other. And, we should talk about it a lot! Exchange who we really are in order to meet on levels so profound, we never even imagined we could be able to connect.

Here are some simple steps to come to a place of openness and sharing, which leads to the true divine purpose of sexuality… the unification of poles, that once thought they are living in separation and in sexuality finally can feel – they always HAVE BEEN ONE!!

1. Know your Bio-Rhythm

Did you know that there are a variety of body rhythms that can increase or lower our sexual response? This rhythms are creating better or worse times to enjoy and / or encourage sexual activity! So one way to make sure your sex-life is happening at a time where you truly connect with each other in body-mind and soul, is to know when you highest physical respond to sexuality is. To go a step further you can look at both charts and see when you are both at the peak of your physical desire. Make it a game rather than a sign of success, to watch the different levels of intensity, closeness and connection you experience during the many phases of your bio-rhythm.ghh2. Know the time of day you enjoy

Over the years of sharing tantric teachings, I met a lot of people who expressed their frustration and irritations, over feeling internally disconnected from their natural rhythms and cycles. And here I have to make clear “Ladies.. the pill was not a blessing!!” and, on a deeper level it was not brought to us by the pharma industry, to create the field and possibility for women to explore their sexuality in freedom… it was spread all over the world to disconnect women from their divine connection to the rhythms and cycles of the universe, that our physical bodies sensory-self naturally is aware of. So go back and feel yourself again!! Don’t make your sexuality another appointment in your busy calendar! It’s a time to be with yourself, while you share your energy field, emotional field and physical body with somebody else. Know if you like morning-sex or not, know if you enjoy being woken up in the middle of the night, be aware if you need routine or surprise, … and share this knowledge with your partner.

3. Never abuse your sexuality

What ever your own truth and personal expression of this truth is when it comes to your sexuality, don’t ever abuse yourself when you share it!! Doing so can open up a wormhole of emotional and psychological issues!! Issues with a profound negative effects on your mental, emotional and physical health. You might ask yourself, but what is abuse in this case? If you share your sexuality with an individual you feel uncomfortable with or you are even scared of, having petty sex, sharing sex when you’re angry, having sex with someone you don’t feel connected with or have bad feelings for, having sex when either person isn’t feeling well, having half unconscious sex on alcohol or drugs – these are all expressions of abuse! As long as you abuse your sexuality on any of this levels, your sexual expression is contaminated with the vibration of this abuses!

4. Know your level of desire

I have to confess, human sexuality is a pretty tricky thing!! As soon as a single thing kind of “goes wrong” it has the power to mess with our heads pretty badly. In the moment we are aware of that and look at it from an outside perspective, we already take back some of our lost power. So when it comes to desire, to the fire of passion, the wish to physically feel so much… we need to do share in clarity… Talk to each other!! Share with your partner that you are only really “hot for it” one time the week, even that their need is maybe 4 times. Speak openly and fearless and look together for solutions!! We need to understand that our partners desire and drive for sexuality – is a completely personal thing – just like our own is, and that it has nothing to do with the quality of the relationship, the love your partner has for you or how desirable he/she finds you. From that perspective – why not let him masturbate in the bedroom (instead of hidden behind the closed bathroom door), maybe be present and simple watch… could even add extra pepper ;-)!! Ok is, what ever it is that fits for you, your partner and your co-creative relationship! Make this decisions together, and it will create a deep level of trust and gratitude for another!!nkj5. Be present with all your senses

Sex is an essential part of life. It’s for our health and well-being as important, as our nutrition or our sleep cycles are. Sex in its divine expression is not simple a physical act, but the union of two bodies, minds, souls and emotional bodies. When we approach it that way, sex becomes a spiritually fulfilling experience. And, it can only be experienced within the physical body – soaked in with all its senses. The environment, the food,the music and the lighting you choose, all play an important role in developing intimacy, closeness and emotional comfort. Take time to prepare, enjoy the feeling of “inviting your lover”, play with your imagination, get excited in your mind – and than allow this excitement to have its way with you and your partner!

I hope my sharing brought you some inspiration, maybe a little bit direction but most of all, joy for a brand new paradigm of a collective sacred human sexuality!!
Blessings in Extasis!

Edith

If you enjoy my posts and desire to sign up for the daily newsletter, you find a button on the right bar of my page. Please also like New Beginnings Guatemala on Facebook, and keep up the good work spreading the word ;-)!
Feel INVITED to share this post also on your website or social media, just keep the links and credit active PLEASE! THANKS!

Why not to take Ayahuasca?

Sanango , Izabal, Guatemala

aya

Thank you so much hermano Sanango from the Sinchi Runa Center in Izabal, for this beautiful article. I totally agree with him on the need for a good preparation, a deep personal understanding of the process, a good mental and physical health state and lots and lots of transparency in the communication with the facilitator/assistant. Each of this parts are important for the success of a session. For the integration I watched the following: with every day you spend in a loving self-embrace; with smoothing, self-love evoking, balancing and harmonizing music; breathing deeply and consciously, while planting seeds of positive thought pattern – the deeper roots of your past (this and every other life on the spiral dance of creation), your destructive pattern and emotional body, the medicine can reach and shift in vibration. This can go on for days and days after the ceremonial encounter – totally depending on your invested degree of awareness, attention, devotion, surrender and passion. REMEMEBER – we talk about engaging in a relationship with a spirit!
I saw similarity in our few about finding the right helper match, which made me smile. I believe in guidance and the good of obeying the free will! So for me it is: 1st let the medicine call you! Feel a pull – in best case more than one’s – feel attracted, sense passion that comes from within, sense nervousness similar to stage fright….All of this are excellent signs of a “call” from your spirit guides. As next step, you can take full responsibility for yourself by clearing deep inside, what you might need in your servant. From there you are well equipped, to choose – from the heart – your work partner for the process. As a last step: with your feet on the ground, make a leap of faith, trust your choice of person and trust the process! 🙂
I found myself laughing out loud, when he calls the Ayahuasca a “des hallucinatory substance” :-).. AHO – I soooo agree!! The nice colors, the geometries and sounds are lovely and amazing also very good for the emotional body – as they are of high vibration and can fill up our “feel good account”. But they are barely a blue print of each individuals soul potential . A blueprint that wants to be manifested into our materialized world – in the alchemical wedding of your spirit in human action. The deep healing, the creational existence of self, the endlessness, we find in the layers beyond.
Isn’t it funny, that even the physical body in compressed form proves to contain 99% emptiness :-)…

Love and Blessings
Edith

There are many indications against taking ayahuasca. At the physical level, the most important is a major cardiovascular disorder. Problems could be caused not so much through the biochemical action of the brew, but through the stress caused by the intense work or circumstance that might come with the session. An ayahuasca session is a great opportunity, but demands a lot of mental and physical strength, for which it is important to have a history free of cardiovascular complications.

At the mental level, there are individuals with serious emotional problems that may hinder the dynamic of the session. These emotional problems can be expressed in daily life by uncontrollable impulses, states of explosive anger or deep states of loss of control. If the participant suffers from so-called black outs or have been diagnosed with a psychiatric mental disorder, a prior personal consultation is needed before the session to evaluate the inner state.

Moreover, there are situations such as addictions or consumption of psychiatric drugs to take into account. If the participant is using any kind of substance, it is very important to have a prior detoxification period. This is preferably done in the center that will realize the ayahuasca session. The use of substances such as cocaine or dopamine stimulants requires a detox period that can vary from 15 to 30 days before the intake of the plant. If the participant discards this indication and wishes to attend a session without disclosing data regarding these issues, it signifies a lack of understanding. Such a participant does not realize the type of medicine that ayahuasca is and will not be ready to participate in a session.

The attitude of the participant seeking their own search for truth, trust, transparency towards himself and to the process, is the most important thing in front of an ayahuasca session or any kind of spiritually based healing.
If the participant is not clear of what type of process he is approaching and has information based only through the impact of online videos, seeking a psychedelic experience or only expecting to receive lights and colorful shapes that can cause great excitement. If the expectation is a spectacular trip or a magic potion, the participant should not drink ayahuasca.

It is important to understand that the mission and spirit of ayahuasca is to heal through comprehension. The great opportunity of humanity with this entheogen is to surpass the barrier of the mind and go beyond the illusion of the state of alertness to obtain wisdom of the universe.
Ayahuasca is not an hallucinogen, is a des hallucinatory substance. Ayahuasca is a portal to the essence of humanity, a portal where memories of the species can be opened. This opening can bring understanding of the higher self and the purpose of each one, not only as an individual, but as humanity. Ayahuasca is a chance to heal the soul and reach the truth that lives within each one.

It is very important that the guide is honest and truthful. Do not take ayahuasca with guides who have new age speeches or messianic ideas. Make sure that the guide or facilitator is not improvising and that has really done a deep work of personal comprehension or a discipular spiritual path. It is advisable to analyze the ethical level of the guide or facilitator, the profusion of “shamans”, “avatars”, “guardians of the medicine” and other bizarre characters is something to avoid when choosing where and with whom to take ayahuasca. An apparent native guide or facilitator does not guarantee anything. Not be swayed by prejudice or pre concepts, neither believe in “shamans”, “natives”, who lives in cities or that are characters full of names or egotistical self-imposed titles.

If you have financial constraints, it is best to wait to fix them. Never make a decision based on finding the cheapest option. Do not trust sessions that only ask for a “collaboration” or are “free”, these are usually desperate acts of the guide or facilitator and is generally a lack of transparency. It is recommended to not do sessions carried out in cities or proceeding from them, in which the guide or facilitator is a multi-task professional.

ayahuasca

A genuine ayahuasca ceremony requires a prior preparation, a purge and a preliminary assessment. It is recommended that ayahuasca sessions be done preferably in a center in the jungle or in the countryside where the participant can disconnect from the everyday world. It is recommended to rest after the experience and make the space to take it seriously.
If the participant has a big schedule which is more important compared to the healing process and the session is one of the many experiences of the itinerary, the participant definitely should not take ayahuasca.

The participant must make a careful choice, free of cultural preconceptions, making the proper space and having the respect it deserves. If the previous points are not taken into account, one should not take Ayahuasca.
The best practice to decide where and with whom to do a session is to listen to one’s heart. It is easy to see who is real or not, this is very important when making this decision.

The participant has a decision to make this experience a chance of understanding something far beyond anything imagined. It’s the opportunity to open the heart, mind and being to the universe. The session is an opportunity to heal and be healed through the compassion of the universe. If the participant reaches humility and pureness of heart, it may understand the most important thing of their existence.

Source: http://ayahuascaguatemala.com/existen-varias-contraindicaciones-para-evitar-tomar-ayahuasca.html